My boyfriend and his uncle went to pickup his aunt and her daughter in a town that is about 8 hours away. They used my vehicle to do this. It also happens to be my days off, but of course, I wasn't asked to go. He says that someone has to be here to take care of the kids, but if we want to go out, we always to seem to find a sitter right away. He can't seem to understand why I am mad. I feel that he could have at least asked if I wanted to go, and not just told me he was going to go.
2006-06-12 07:16:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have every right to be mad.
They took your car and didn't ven ask if you wanted to go.
I know I would be really mad if that happened to me.
It would be the last time they took my car.
I think you should go out and have fun since it's your days off.
Plus it isn't fair for him to go out and you to have to take care of the children.
I totally understand where you're coming from.
I hope everything works out,
And he apologizes!!
*Danielle*
2006-06-12 07:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you need to get over it and stop being a clingy baby. This is his family he's going to get and on the way back there will already be 4 people in the vehicle. He probably didn't invite you because most people wouldn't want to squash with 4 other people in a vehicle for 8 hours on their day off. What is your problem??? Are you that insecure that you would get someone else to look after your children that long just so your boyfriend won't be out of your sight?
2006-06-12 07:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by miss_angel_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Well, this sounds a little hurtful, selfish and inconsiderate to me. How long in advance did he/you know about this trip, I wonder. Personally, I would make it a practice not to loan anyone my car ever, especially on a road trip like this. If anything happens, as the owner of the car, you are responsible for everything. Stop being so nice. People, regardless of who they are, should meet you at least half way on any issue that's important to you. Nobody deserves disrespect. It just doesn't pay to let people take advantage of you. They don't like you any better for it. Seems to me that all you got out of your days off is being left alone with a lot of hurt feelings. This just is not right. When he get home, tell him he owes you (fill in the blanks, whatever your favorite thing is) and make sure he gives it to you, otherwise it's "couchville" for a few nights for him. And please don't let them do this to you again.
2006-06-12 07:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and a right to be utterly pissed off. You can't change him.
take the key away from him when he is sleeping. Put your key in a hidden place. Don't tell him. Just do it.
you have given your boyfriend the choice to behave in dis dispecabble male matter. Shame on him....
Because he is a man, he thinks he has the right to mistreat a woman. He not only stole your car, he cornered you.
It took me 7 years to finally cornered my man. So he would stop this ridiculous male behavior. I love him dearly . We r about to get married. Even though I dispise the corrupted male program. It is us the women dat need to change. We need to take our power back. Do stuff for you alone. Discover that the best friend you will ever have is you, inside of your head.
Lapis Lazuli
2006-06-12 07:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lapis Lazuli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him why he didn't want you to go? Why was his uncle going instead of you? Especially if you were off work, there wasn't any reason why you couldn't go.
Maybe this is why I am not married and never will be again. BUT I would have demanded the truth and he sure as hell wouldn't have used my car. I would have told him to use his uncle's car or find another one to borrow. What is wrong with your boyfriends? And why put all those miles on your car????
Maybe his family doesn't like you? I would be livid if it were me.
2006-06-12 07:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ,i would be mad .my ex did that all the time to me .it drove me nuts .not the borrowing the car but the trips i never got to go on i was married to him for 13 yrs and sep after 11 in the 11 that we lived together i never had a weekend away( i did go away one weekend but i had one of the kids.he got away how many weekends with out kids since the yr we got married,too many to count. he should of least asked u along,and put gas in the car.and the kids get a sitter or take them along.im sure they wouldnt mind an outing.
2006-06-12 07:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by blackfoot124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to be mad. It was your car and you might have had stuff that you needed to do. And you might have wanted to go or you might not have but the least he could have done was asked if you wanted to go. It is nice to included you other half when planning to go out and do something even if it is picking up a relative.
2006-06-12 07:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by trebeck12000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right to get mad. he was suppose to ask you if you would like to go or not, at least he could say it in a nicer way that you have to stay with the kids.
2006-06-12 07:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think you have every right in the world to be mad! Hell I would too! That was not cool. I could see maybe 8 minutes away, but 8 hours away? Thats crazy. ask him how he would feel if that happened to him...odd silence? lol
2006-06-12 07:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you have every right to be upset i know i would espechially if they left me w/o a car. Why could his uncle go be himself or even in his our car? I would have left the kids to my moms or his mom and went w/him. So now you should take a road trip w/o him and the kids say "i had to get away and couldn't take you" see how that feels;)
2006-06-12 07:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋