Is it just my girlfriend, or do women lose their libido completely?

Question

I aint had sex for nearly two months, GOD IM DESPERATE!!!!!

She says she still fancies me, but ever since she has been pregnant i am a "pal" not a lover.. Sob Sob.....

Answer 1

It is defiantly just your girlfriend.

Answer 2

Give her some space, let her hormones settle down and then you might find her libido will increase when shes at the blooming stage.

Heres a tip for you too if your girlfriend goes over her due date:

Take her for a nice brisk walk, have a hot curry, take a long hot bath and then too bed to have your wicked way with her.

While sex won't start labour unless the woman's body is ready, nipple stimulation and intercourse are natural ways to help induce labour in late pregnancy if your baby is overdue. The prostaglandins in semen soften the cervix, and hormones released by nipple stimulation encourage the uterus to contract.

But knowing your luck the curry would do the trick and the sex part would get missed out. Us pregnant ladies do like our food.

Anyway good luck. As soon enough you will be so tired even you won't want sex. (And most women go off it for a long time after giving birth).

Aahh the joys of parenthood!!

Answer 3

Women respond differently to hormonal changes, and dont worry the changes are very unstable. She is most likely going through the lack of libido phase, it wont last too long. Give her some time and she will be insatiable due to another hormonal surge. Same with her moods, she will be up and down on the mood scale.
For some its the fear that she might be hurting the baby, you might just need to talk things out with her and allay any fear of hurting 'juniour'.
For others its a body image disturbance kind of thing. She may feel unattractive but not tell you. Tell her how sexy she looks pregnant.
Also tell her how you feel, she wouldnt like the fact that her actions are causing such desperation and may just succumb to your desires. Good luck (and dont go looking elsewhere, its a difficult time for her).

Answer 4

It varies from woman to woman. I lost mine for a while then found it went up and down while a friend of mine says she was insatiable! Depending on how smooth your pregnancy is and how you feel can affect this. I had horrendous morning sickness, got heavy and uncomfortable very quick and didnt feel sexy at all! Even when I tried later on, dressing up in sexy undies that barely fit (blush) i must have looked like a whale but bless my husband he managed not to laugh and made me feel special.

Letting your girlfriend know how special she is to you, how much you love her and how much you appreciate and admire her for going through pregnancy for you both will all help get her back on track. Pregnancy is NOT sexy, at least not to most women and showing your support and making her feel special and loved will help. Even if you are raging with horniness inside go and do the decent thing, by yourself and soon you will be rewarded. If you moan at her it is a huge turn off!

Although you may feel alone the same thing can happen with men as well as some get freaked by the thought of hurting the baby, or even of the baby knowing what they are doing! So there are some women out there freaking out like you are right now as well... doesnt mean you should be finding them though (hehehe) Appreciate the steak you have at home, a woman who loves and cares for you enough to bear your child and in time you will get your delicious dessert ;)

Answer 5

I am almost 32 weeks pregnant and I am just starting to get it back. Hormones have a big part to play in loss of libido. Also she probably feels like crap, morning sickness, bloated, sore breasts, fatigue, and maybe she just doesn't feel pretty right now. I know I went through this, it gets a little better after the 3rd month, for the first 3 I didn't even want to kiss my hubby lol. Hang in there (no pun intended), show her some compassion and she will likely reciprocate your feelings soon.

Answer 6

hi ya hunnie tell me about it but im the women ......ive had two kids when i was pregnant with the first i still wanted sex but my hubby didnt i though it was just me .... but the second pregnancy i didnt and he did i no how he felt the first time womens hormons are completly mucked up ....... if i was you id go have a bit of a hand job itll do till she can get her sex drive back wich she will after the second my sex life took a.little longer to get back but in full throtlle now . please dont go else where youve gotta be a daddy soon so behave....... plus some women might not feel attractive when pregnant

Answer 7

It never happened to me. In fact I had the opposite problem. I didn't lose my libido but my partner lost interest! However, it is not uncommon for a woman to lose libido during pregnancy. You should still give her physical affection, even if she just wants a cuddle.

Answer 8

God have you not read all the leaflets and self help books? They tell you all about this!Every woman is different, i lost some of my libido but it wasnt so bad!

Just look at it from a practical point of view: you've done your job as far as the whole reproducing side of things goes so it is only natural that sex isnt necessary anymore!

Just give her lots of cuddles and attention and she might get in the mood you never know....if not your are gonna have to please yourself but please don't make her feel bad!

Answer 9

You try having your hormones completely knocked sideways, worrying constantly, feeling completely knac***ed and (depending on how far gone you are) having something wriggling and kicking hell out of your insides, then tell me you'd feel sexy. Give the poor girl a break and try a little tlc - you're not the baby any more.

Any why we're on a rant, why is she still your girlriend? She's carrying your child, marry her immediately.

Answer 10

When you are pregnant, hormones can affect your sex drive, it is quite common. You need to give her some space don't go on at her. Just make do with cuddles

Answer 11

ok listen i am 19 weeks pregnant and i have just don't want sex at all and my bf is like like wantting to know why but i still love him with all my heart my doctor said that it was normal and it would come back so don't worry and don't say anything cause it just causes more worrying that your going to leave and trust me we are on overload has it is