I married her a year ago,only known for 2 years,really fell hard for her,didn't work out.We are seperated,not my choice,but I can't stop thinking about her.Last night I dreamed about her all night long.I miss her so much,not able to hold her in my arms and feel her touch,IT'S ALL MAKING ME FREAK OUT!
2006-06-12 06:56:56 · 11 answers · asked by Steven K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude,
Get a grip. From what you described, she left you because you are obsessive, and it's not a healthy relationship. Start getting control of yourself and your emotions. You live your life for you, not only you, but mainly you. Remember that. Do things that make you happy, you need to realize that the two of you may not get back together.
Once you have stood on your own feet again, then maybe ask if she'd like to go out or something, but as you are now, it would do you no good. Stop freaking out, and don't feel sorry for yourself either, be a man, damnit. Women like being taken care of, but not stalked, even if you are married.
2006-06-12 09:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what to tell you. I think if you love someone like that, the pain never really goes away. Once you give your heart to someone, they own it forever. Can you love again? Yeah, you can, but it is never really the same. It has been 9 years separated for me and still I think about him all the time, even though I am married now and have children. You have to move on and live your life one day at a time. Some good advice that I wish I would have followed is don't jump into another relationship right away. Try to work out your feelings on your own for a while. Good luck.
2006-06-12 14:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by sami_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, maybe she's feeling the same way. If not, then things will get easier, you just have to get through one day at a time. Sooner or later you'll stop missing her so much and start to move on with your life and find someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them.
2006-06-12 13:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal and okay... You are not weird and un normal ofor this. Why are you separated if i may ask? Talk to her and see if she is open to working on the marriage at all or getting help to try and savage and reconcile. It sounds like you love her very much! I would like to know why it has not worked out for you? This is very sad.
2006-06-12 14:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spill the beans about your feelings to her. Women need to know they are loved and telling her is one great way to get started doing that.
If she is so shallow that she can't see how much she means to you, then go find someone worthy of all the love you have to give.
Good luck!
2006-06-12 14:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same situation as you and its hard but talk to her see if she feels the same way if not try going out and finding yourself a new gf, if she has moved on the you should too, dont make your self missreable
2006-06-12 14:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still in love with her. Seek counseling. If you can't get the relationship back then you'll have to make a move to repair what has been done, for yourself, not her........(~:~)
2006-06-12 14:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you still love her! You said you two split but it wasn't because YOU wanted to. I'm in the same boat with my husband. I guess it just takes time. I wish you luck.
2006-06-12 14:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brutal, Dude!
Sorry you're going though such pain!! Try talking to her, offer to work things out.
If that doens't work, as hard as it might be, you're going to have to move on....
Good Luck Bra!
Aloha!
2006-06-12 14:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her if that doesn't work you need to find a close person to talk to and move on
2006-06-12 14:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋