2006-06-12 06:49:24 · 32 answers · asked by cinders 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honey how long you been married.. me 9 years.. i wish i could help you, i am married to a guy who emotion, and mentally abuses me..not phy.. cause i would wear him out and he knows it.. I will let you know what I do to try to forget about what he does I have3 children and I take them somewhere or I go by myself... just know we are our worst eminies in life.. so whatever he is saying doing to you, just know that i have found out that something is bothing them and they dont want to talk about it..not to us anyways.. does he come home from work late? Do you feel like crap and get upset, dont let him see you hurting over what he is doing to you, that gives them more engery to hurt your feeling whenever he wants... If you havent been married long, Knowing what I know I would say go.RUN>> cause it only gets stronger.. words hurt worse then getting hit..and the words last a lifetime..you never forget the hurt the pain but instead you keep tring to make things work...and you try to stay happy as well,,its a rough one ,if i knew then what i know now i would be happy again.. Oh yeah another way is to go have lunch with his mother. be kind and honest and open with her and then ask her not to say anything to him and get her oppion on the matter.. mom knows her son the best.... if you are young please run away from him, someone who needs and wants love they are out there... Dont go looking for it , love will come to you... Run Run while you can if you can dont wind up like myself where nothing i do is right and where i am my own friend and eniemy.. sorry not a speller.. My email address is Angelastevens30@yahoo.com please feel free to write me I would like to help or at least compair... good luck, Angie
2006-06-12 07:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by smiles 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship NOW! Emotional abuse leads to either depression or physical abuse. Neither of these things is good for you. You deserve better. Nobody should be abused, either physically, emotionally, verbally, or any way. You are a human being, not a dog. Get help from friends, family or a local domestic abuse network. Call you local police if you need assistance.
Good luck.
2006-06-12 06:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by MJL613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 21 years. All of the abuse really affected my self-esteem. I got so bad that I was on anti-depressants and sleeping pills. :( Years later, after much counseling (he wouldn't do it cause he didn't think that there was anything wrong with him), I got my self-esteem back and left him--for good. I realized that he was never going to change (abusers never do). Once I left and got on my own, I felt sooooooooooo much better. Abusers don't know how to respect someone. They think that love is abuse.
I am now with someone that refuses to abuse me in any way because he loves, respects, and cherishes me. He treats me like a God!! I have my sanity and self-esteem and I feel soooooooooooo much better about myself and the world.
So, I think that you need to pack up and RUN--not walk--out of there. If there are kids involved, don't leave them with him as he will take it out on them if you aren't there. I know from experience that the abuse only gets worse, not better. There is no way to ignore it. You just have to leave it.
Good luck. E-mail me if you want to talk (go to my profile to do so).
2006-06-12 07:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't ignore when someone you love says hurtful things to you. The best advice I can give you would be to get out of that situation because things will NOT get better. I have seen things go from emotionally abusive to physically abusive....just get out while you still can.
2006-06-12 06:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sally Mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that probably can't be ignored. Are you happy the way he treats you? Was he like this when you met him? Did he show any signs of this? If staying with him is what you want to do, you all probably need a lot of prayer and probably some counseling. I hate to see men treat their wives like that, but I wish you the best of luck. Don't let it get to bad though. You do not have to stay anywhere that you're not happy. God bless you, your husband and your marriage. If you need someone to talk to, you can e-mail me @ LeishaB04@yahoo.com or IM me on Yahoo Messenger QueenB4rmdabany. Good luck!
2006-06-12 06:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Charlies_Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack you things and hit the road. Abusers never change and if you want to keep your sanity and whatever part of you that is left, you will leave the abusive husband immediately.
I left mine after tieing him up in the bedsheets and whacking him with a shovel a few times. Didn't hurt him too bad, but he got the message loud and clear.
Best of luck to you.
2006-06-12 06:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to stand up for yourself, life is too short to let someone keep you in misery. If you still love this guy, and you think he loves you than set him straight. Go get an attorney,draft up the papers to file for a divorce, have an escape plan ready, than confront him, give him the option, straighten up our you'll start this ball rolling. if he gets abusive have a phone handy to call 911.
In these times there is no need to live your life that way, but only you can do anything about it.
2006-06-12 07:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secretly tape the b@stard as he's calling you names and play it back to him. Write a list of the names he calls you and mail it to him. You can't put up with that? Why don't you separate from him for a while. What an @$$hole! Sorry, emotionally abusive people make me really mad. I was with a man like that (not married thankfully) for 2 years and he called me names that would curl your hair. I taped him and made lists of the names he called me, and it helped me to finally end it.
2006-06-12 06:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by mkk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, you are not going to be able to just ignore him..the longer you hear it the more it will start to sink in. you are going to have to set some healthy boundaries. if he still continues to cross them he has to face the consequences! just talking doesn't work for a man, consequences speak louder. if you tell him you will leave if he continues to speak to you that way, DO IT! don't pose the threat that your'e leaving and then don't follow through. even if you have to stay with another family member or close friend, this will be better for you than putting up with his emotional abuse in the long run. just because he has a problem doesn't mean you have to be his outlet!
2006-06-12 06:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Some Therapy and Get Out. You CANNOT FIX him. Love yourself you are important and worthy of being treated with respect. Choose yourself. If you are in the U.S.A this is a free country ther vast opppotunities for you and help out there for you take advantage of it. You don't have to ignore just leave him and then you don't have to deal with him at all.
2006-06-12 06:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by tryingtolearnsomething 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋