Alright, I've been with this girl for about 2 years, we've been living together for about 1. We're relatively young and both have fairly shitty jobs, she makes slightly more than I do at the moment.
The problem is that she has so much credit card debt, etc. that she never has any extra money after bills/rent/some groceries. Lately, it seems she's broke a couple days after she gets her check, usually (but not always) after all the bills and groceries are taken care of. Then for the next few weeks, I've got to watch what I spend when really I shouldn't have to. Entertainment, going out to eat, anything else that may pop up, that responsibility falls on me.
Then 2 weeks later it starts all over again.
Money isn't something I normally worry much about. I haven't really sat down and calculated how badly I'm getting scewed, though the more I think of it, its probably a lot. And it's probably been that way for a long time. Also, I dont see her situation changing much anytime soon.
2006-06-12 06:46:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, gee, depends on your relationship....if you are living together you need to share the financial burdens, which means her debt is your debt, whether you pay it directly or by paying for all the miscellaneous stuff, you still pay more than your share...figure out your finances, set a plan and a budget that you both agree to live by, otherwise, this is always gonna be a problem...and yes, you are getting screwed
2006-06-12 07:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by twentythree 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to manage her money matters better if she wants to continue eating and having a place to live. If you think that this may be offensive to her then you should suggest that in order to manage the money better and more fairly - you should both agree on halfing some of the bills. For instance: you pay the rent and bills while she covers the food and entertainment expenses..etc
2006-06-12 06:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by cgc17788 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit down together, go over all of the bills and make sure that the credit cards are not still being used.
It's not fare that you have to help, but that's life, if you love her then you take on half of the responsibility of paying off her debt as long as you are living together.
2006-06-12 06:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Minustone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to her about it. since you are not yet married, you do not have to deal with her. if its making you that mad tell her you cant afford to support her because you are young and should be spending money on yourself. however, money problems are a major cause of divorce and if you can work through this, you probably will make it through anything. suggest she see a financial advisor or get debt consolidation. then cut up all of her credit cards except for one that can only be used for EMERGENCIES! another idea would be to set aside a certain amount of money each paycheck (say $20) and spend it on yourself and nobody else! good luck!
2006-06-12 06:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. listn.. i dont normally do this.. im new at it.. but i do think that u and ur gurl should sit together and calculate ur bills then find jobs and try to pay for it... thats wat i would do.. well its ur choice.. but i wish u the best of the best
tc
holla!!
2006-06-12 07:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by hilary f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my oppinion you are
2006-06-12 06:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by eaw_mkj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋