Been married for 12 years, long years. This has been the second relationship in my life as hers. We used to talk, hold hands, little touches here and there. We have 2 kids, things have been going down hill until now. We are holding hands again, little touches here and there, but I find it still a little hard to talk to her like we used to. Don't get me wrong, things are better than when we first met except the talking thing. We used to talk about anything, past sex partners, girlfreinds, boyfreinds etc. Have you had a similar experiance? Do you have any advice?
2006-06-12 06:42:29 · 12 answers · asked by Andy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello
Go out on dates and spend time with each other. Basically fall in love all over again! Why do you feel you cannot talk to her if i may ask? Try talking with her about silly things at first and things that seem fun and meaningless. Do fun stuff together. Enjoy each other and if you have continue having communication problems seek counseling and help for it... My husband and i are here if you need help and need to talk!
2006-06-12 06:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is pretty normal what you are experiencing. My husband of 20 years and I went through that for a while too. We noticed it and made it a point to turn off the TV and just chat for at least 30 minutes every day. Now, sometimes the TV doesn't even come on in the evenings. Try setting a special time for chats with your wife. You can get back to where things used to be. My husband and I did and it's even more fun now than it used to be.
Good luck and best wishes!
2006-06-12 14:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me that would seem like a common thing in a long relationship/marriage. Sometimes everyone needs their quiet time and being with someone everyday in the same home, you can run out of things to say to each other. Starla had a great idea. Turn the TV off.
The problem that I had with that was that my wife left when that happened. I guess the honeymoon was over for her and the reality of family, marriage and life set in. We had a baby that was 7 months old at the time.
2006-06-12 19:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage Counseling? Seriously, if the pattern continues for a long time. Maybe that could help get through the communication issue. It seems like you guys are on the right track. Things getting better and all. My concern is that unless you guys can talk, some other problem (or just life in general) comes up again, and you guys could get derailed.
God Bless,
Vic
2006-06-12 14:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Vic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive beem married for 13 years. I understand fully were your coming from.My husband his an only child so he as always had thing his way he his not very emotionally attatched at all,it really hurts me because i on the other hand am very emotional,all he does now his moan and yell at me.If i dont speak to him he does not even communicate with me. Before its to late you want to talk to her and ask her whats up
2006-06-12 14:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by cinders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really love each other as you thought,face the fact,love is over and long gone if you can't communicate with talking unless you only need a relationship for both instead of love.
2006-06-12 13:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by canada2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I webt thru that with my ex husband and it feels like i am going to be dealing with the issue again in my current relationship. All u can really do is try and talk to her, see what happens. Good luck, I hope my advice was ok.
2006-06-12 13:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by trebeck12000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cool you can talk about whatever. But don't forget to remind her of what you love about HER, too. Maybe she feels a little left out.
2006-06-12 13:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simple. Love[true love] lasts forever, romance does not.If you want romance look elsewhere but not recomended because it wont last either. stay where you are and be glad your wife still loves you.
[cant wait to see what smart remark"everybody loves Chris" will have on this answer. he's a very sick person]
2006-06-12 14:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by don 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk, talk, talk. Every relationship goes through this transition. Find time to treat her special. I wish you much love and much luck.
2006-06-12 14:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋