should my mom be mad at me for...?

Question

i just finished my exams on friday last last week my mom's first reason for getting mad at me were my exam marks which are 53/60,54/60,55/60,55/60,56/60,59/60 Are these marks to get mad about or not? Second reason is that I begged her to go to this place because it was two of my best friends birthday and we were gonna surprise them. So she dropped me and one of my best friends at the restaurant. we were all having fun we surprised them with a cake and we were sitting in the order girl,girl,(me),girl,boy,gir,girl,boy,boy,girl right before we even ordered food she called me and said that she was coming to get in half an hour, i told her that we weren't done and she screamed at me and hang up the phone. After they cut the cake I took a video and right at that moment a guy came and sat next to me to see the video. After about one minute my mom without calling me came up to the place we were and I was so mad because she gave attitude to me and all my friends and by that she took the fun aw

and my friends know that she doesn't like guys around me so one of them actually fell off a chair and tried to get me out of trouble and she ruined the whole fun i don't care about my my 3 best friend's birthday got ruined and know she hasn't said a word to me in 4 days. I don't care because i did nothing i didn't call any of the boys and they were called because it was on of them's birthday too an i feel so sad to know that my mom doesn't trust me

and my marks were

53/60 54/60 55/60 55/60 56/60
59/60

i'm 14 and those guys were my friends nothing more i swear

Answer 1

You are doing a great job honey!! Keep up the good work. When I was a teen my Dad was overbearing like your mom is, so I totally understand. Just hang in there, she thinks shes doing it for your own good but what she doesn't know is that by nature you will rebel, and there will be situations when your rebellion will put you in danger. So It's important to sit her down and talk to her, explain your feelings to her, maybe even show her this e-mail, Communication is so important, that's the one thing I didn't have with my dad. By the way you left out your age? P.S. Most guys are up to no good so be careful!! That might be what she's fearful about. Good luck, talk,talk,talk (to Mom), keep up the good work in school, keep the guy at a safe distance. Live life, have fun!

Answer 2

I am a pretty lenient parent when it comes to my child's grades. She knows what she needs to do to make the grades and she is capable of doing straight A's (95 is the lowest FINAL GRADE she's ever made) so getting mad at her if she fails something or gets a low mark isn't something that I tend to do. She has goals set in her life and knows it's going to take good grades and hard work to keep her GPA at 3.8 or above so I don't worry or get mad about those things. It will be HER who has to do the work and HER who either succeeds or fails.... not me. Already done my time in school so what life is for me is what I made of it. If she wants a better life, I have given her the tools and directions so it is up to her to make those tools and directions work in her favor. Besides, it's too much to worry about her grades when she worries about them enough for both of us!

As for the party... the circumstances may have looked differently to your parent and she may have reacted according to how it appeared. All you can do is be up-front and honest with her and let her see she can trust you. It sounds also to me that if you had to "beg" to go in the first place, she really didn't want you to go so she found a reason to pick you up earlier than you had wanted.

Answer 3

First... It's not you!!!! It sounds like your mom has some issues and is making it about her.. Of course you can't tell her this... Typically when people act like this and it doesn't make since.. it's something going on with them...

Second.. I doubt it ruined their party.. people will forget .. let it go.

Third, Maybe she feels you aren't doing your "Best" with the grades... there is a difference between passing and doing your best.

After things settle down, go talk to your mom and simply ask her... "What am I doing wrong, Mom?" Once she understands that you are trying to make her happy then that might open the door... OR she just may have huge insecurities about herself.. and that is showing up when she talks to you...

Ask her "How sitting next to a boy makes her feel?" etc. .. get her to talk about her feelings. Then listen.

Answer 4

you should be proud of yourself and your grades. i believe your mom just wants the best for you but is going about it the wrong way. perhaps she is stressed out and taking it out on you. but not talking to you for 4 days is not right. try to open the line of communication. talk to her about your grades and how hard you studied and you did your best. let her know how much you value your friendships too. friends are very important and it sounds like you have many. show her you can be trusted. you don't say how old you are but that may have something to do with this situation with the boys.

Answer 5

that's not bad grades at all i think you did excellent your mom shouldn't have did that to you you should be mad at her for doing stuff like that! you just finished exams go out and have fun! sneak out! or RUN AWAY!

Answer 6

lol i think for me its a very gd marks my exam results just came and i failed in biology lol and i dont know how will i tell my parents

Answer 7

she should be glad that you are in school and help you achieve you goals

Answer 8

SHE IS BEING A LITTLE TOO HARD ON YOU