I Cant forgive and forget what should i do??

Question

my baby's daddy cheated i took him back but there is not one moment i dont think about what he did to me, not a day passes by with out me feeling hurt and angry .. what should i do???

Answer 1

If you can't learn to let it go, then the relationship is as good as dead. Either talk to him about it and tell him ways to rebuild the lost trust, or just move on. If you're not willing to fix it, don't draw out the inevitable.

Answer 2

I assume you aren't married, and have a child, right? That was a mistake. Few men wish to raise other men's children. Prepare to be a single mom. At the bare minimum, don't have any more kids. Screw all you want, but don't make a child be the victim of your hormones.

So, what should you do?
1. Produce no more children if you ever wish to be in another relationship
2. Dump him unless you have so little self esteem that you love the pain this guy has caused, and will continue to cause in your life.
3. Go back to school, and acquire a saleable skill to be able to support yourself and your child.

Answer 3

You relationship can survive if he is truly sorry and not going to do it again. Only that way you can try to build some trust again.

You have forgave him, but you still haven't forgotten. You are hurt and confused, but you have to be strong for you and you baby and see if you can trust him again. Give him a chance and see if he is worth of your trust again. Rebuilding a relationship after the devastation of cheating is difficult but not impossible.

My life experience tells me that "once a cheater, always a cheater" , but you seem pretty young and you may have the energy to attempt to salvage your relationship.

I say, give it a try and see if he deserves a second chance, but whaterver you decide, DO NOT give him a third, fourth and fifth opportunity to make things right for you. Don't wait until you are too drained and emotionally exhausted to figure things out.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You need to get help and counseling for this. You do need to learn to forgive and start to heal from the pain this has caused you... This will take time though and dont rush it. Forgetting is another issue all together and may no be humanly possible. I am here if you need to talk and love him where he is at.

Answer 5

Why did you take him back if you really hadn't healed from the hurt --- doing it for the child is of little help when you aren't over the hurt and you are sitting around smoldering over the affair ... you shouldn't be with him at all --- feeling the way you do. Deal with all the hurt and disappointment --- these things take time ----

Answer 6

well he has to show u can trsut him again it is his job to fix the problem that he created. but in order for u to forget about it u may never forgiving is alot easier than ever forgetting it. but u do need to talk to a counciler to help how to control it cause that hurt u really bad. in time things will get easier but u feel betrayed and manipulated and those are areas that u have to get help for he did cause the damage so he must suffer. but in order for u to get the healthy things back in order go talk to someone about it there are techniques that do help hun good luck

Answer 7

Do you want to stay with him and work it out? Do you think he will do it again? Why did he cheat? These are all questions you need to ask yoursefl. If you do decide to work it out your need to forgive him. You will never forget but you need to forgive him and move on. Just keep your eyes open.

Answer 8

Go to couples therapy. See if the relationship is worth saving. Just because you said you forgive him doesnt mean you can just forget. You need time to heal.

Answer 9

move on and be more selective next time.