2006-06-12 05:31:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, you two already have an established friendship, which is awesome! The best realtionships are formed from friendships. Simply hang out with her somewhere (beach, park, etc). and try not to be too emotional with her, because it's 50/50 and you have to protect your heart. I'd say something to the effect of, "You know, you're my best friend and I know I can tell you this without judging...I'm in love with you, with your smile, your laugh, your compassion." Sit close enough to her where she can lay a big smooch on you, but keep a little distance so she doesn't slap you. You just never know how things could turn out. Good luck, sweetie and keep us posted!!!
2006-06-12 05:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by theslam2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't a lesbian (I'm assuming she's a chick), you can't. If you tell her you love her, she WILL freak out. I'm not saying this will be the end of your relationship, but it will change it for a while. Same as if a guy bff said it to her, she would still freak out if she doesn't return the feelings.
2006-06-12 13:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to write you a long answer on my opinion of what you should do, but a lot of people have already given you some good answers like meowgirl182. Just know that when you tell her your a lesbian or bisexual you could get any number of reactions, good and not so good. Also think about if you want to keep this relationship a friendship or romantic, after you pass that line things will change forever. Much luck sweetheart.
2006-06-12 13:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you speak, you don't want to lose your friendship with her. How close are you two? Have you ever shared any borderline romantic, or borderline sexual experiences? Does she know you are attracted to women already? If not, you may want to start there as an opening. See how she reacts to that, then talk about the kinds of women you are attracted to and let her know that she's your type. If she does not respond favorably to that, then you haven't come out and told her you're in love, but you've given her something to think about and you two should still be able to continue your friendship. I've been in the same situation, I know it can be frustrating.
2006-06-12 12:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by AreolaDC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. I simply told my girlfriend before we dated of course, "Look, I have a lot of feelings for you. The truth is I like you more than guys, I am in love with you. Does that gross you out?"
She simply smiled and said "Wow, well......do you want to tell everyone we're lesbians?" She started laughing then but then she seriously asked me if I wanted to date her. We've been together three years-not counting the ones where we were just friends.
2006-06-12 12:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has your friend given you any hints whatsoever that she would be open to a relationship. is she gay or bi? if so then just ask her how she feels about you then listen carefully. then just tell her. you never know. you could have a lifetime bf or a lifetime lover. it's your move. do you feel vibes between you two sometimes? or do you really feel like she has no idea? whatever it is if it's really important to you and weighing heavy on your heart then just tell her. if she's your bf she'll listen without getting upset no matter what her decision is. good luck.
2006-06-12 12:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...to the first 1 that answered your question...what a fcuking idiot...bff means best friend forever...
Tell her this way...look, i need to tell you something... i dont want you to freak out but the sooner i say it the better off we'll both be and just siply state it.. if she really respects you as a frind, she''l say something like"i'm flattered, but i just don't like you that way" and things will be fine...if she shuns you away, she really wasn't a true friend, plain and simple
2006-06-12 13:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Chef Shortie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that i have strong feelings for her and that you love her. Then explain to her about what kind of feelings you're talking about. I tell my best friend all the time that i love her. Don't worry she won't freak out. If she is truly your best friend she'll love you too.
2006-06-12 15:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know your lesbian/bi/bi-curious?
If not tell her that you have feelings for girls...
Ask her if she has had those feelings?
You know her well... Approach the subject gently and lightly.
And also dont make a big fuss by intraducing your question. like saying "I need to talk to you about something."
Tell her that you understand if she doesnt feel the same way and that you would still like to be friends...
Good Luck
2006-06-12 12:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by meowgirl182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bff is a girl?
2006-06-12 12:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋