I don't think I even have a question to ask. I am just so fed up with all this bullshyt dating has to offer! I mean seriously, I have been with this guy off and on for about 2yrs now. When we first met this chick (who I new nothing about was 2/3 mo pregnant). So, I was like why did you never tell me. Because he didnt' know how! Now two years and an apt later... I just had a feeling, he has another baby due, so I asked him, the baby is due................... NEXT FUKKIN month. Just like I asked him why would you lie to me, cheat on me, decieve me AGAIN. I just don't understand. Why he would lie to me, continue to lie to me, I have left him before and I am going to leave him now! I just don't understand.
I have no desire to be with any men and I think this is all becuase of him. I am bi-sexual, no doubt about it, but could this onset of stronger feelings for women, be the result of his lies and decite??
Pray for me Yahoo.. . I am seriously stugglin right now
2006-06-12 04:53:14 · 16 answers · asked by Sunshine_Diva 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You people are SOOOO great... knowing you or not... yahoo seems to have a way of making one feel better... all... ALL of your wishes, thoughts, comments and prayers are greatly appreciated and listened to!
Thank you all!
2006-06-12 07:48:00 · update #1
You have the most advice, you have said you are already leaving him. Good. Find someone who will treat you better and love you for being you. True love knows no gender. Keep yourself open to a new relationship, but take time to heal. If, you swing toward women, fine..yet you could find another man to soothe the hurt. Keep your chin up and keep looking...hopefully love will find you........good luck.
2006-06-13 10:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand and I can't say as I blame you . I have just had my heart handed to me by a guy who was great and everything to me he lied and s*** on me too . I am gay and I so desperately want someone in my life to share with . Back to you Your so called friend is bi too I assume , duh . He seem to be the type that just can't commit to his bi side and fells it necessary to prove his masculinity , so he has to have his occasional affairs with women and fells a need to procreate . I am sorry that this has happened to you and I hope it doesn't turn you off men completely there are some good men around you just have to look a little harder to find them . Maybe if you decide to get involved with another man pick a gay man to start with and he will most likely be faithful . Dump this guy once and for all and don't look back . You certainly deserve better than this .
2006-06-12 14:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you saying your feelings for womyn may be growing stronger b/c he's an idiot. i felt the same way and now i'm in a great relationship with a wonderful woman. but it may not be healthy b/c it leaves a bad taste for men in your mouth. and not all men are bad. i do know no matter what that you deserve better and are smart for leaving him and i hope you don't go back. you can be so much more without him weighing you down. go have some fun for yourself and try to be alone for a while with no hassels from anyone. then later if you feel good you can date whoever you choose. sorry he was such an a$$wipe. you don't have to put up with anyone's sh*t EVER! now be strong and get rid of him and live it up! good luck.
2006-06-12 12:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely move on.
Think about it. This person thinks only of himself. No one else. He is not thinking of your feelings. He is not thinking of the woman's feelings and he is not thinking of those kids feelings. He is just concerned about himself and his own sexual gratification. He has helped produce two human lives and does not take that seriously. Think about that. Do you really want someone who will not be responsible or committed to his children. Or to the mother of his children. He has not been responsible or committed to you or to her. He does have a pattern. See him for what he really is and move on. Do not allow yourself to be a tool for his sexual gratification. As much as that hurts it is the reality. Learn from this experience so it will not be repeated again in your life.
Take some time away from relationships. Just enjoy spending time with true friends and family. How's your career going? Maybe take some classes to improve your work situation. Concentrate on your life for awhile.
Take positive steps toward the future.
Think positively.
And positive things will happen to you.
Don't be a beggar, be a chooser.
Choose to let only good people in your life and your life can't help but be good.
2006-06-12 13:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by invisable_id 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your boyfriend is a total tool.
You deserve way better then this. If I were you, I would dump his sorry a$$. And make sure you know that you are awesome and none of his bullshit is your fault.
If you want to go to women because he treated you poorly, then I wouldn't blame you. That is one of the fun things about being bi. Try dating some nice women, or trying to meet people through mutual friends, and look for someone who will treat you right girl!
2006-06-12 16:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no. You should dump him and move on. I hate cheaters. You can find somebody who truly cares about you and will be a good boyfriend or girlfriend. If your really bi then you will always be bi, but your feeling can become stronger for women after dealing with a jerk of a guy, prob'ly a little jaded right now.
2006-06-12 13:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the guy is a loser so just dump him!
Don't allow this jerk to cast all men in a bad light for you.
This happened to a friend of mine in college who became a lesbian.
This also happend to a male friend of mine who got his heart broken by a women and became gay. I was a pall-bearer at his funeral a few years ago after he died from AIDS.
Jesus Christ is the one you can turn to who will NEVER let you down, never cheat on you, never make you feel worthless.
I pray that you will call out to Him and let him ease your burdens. I pray that you will find the "peace that surpasses all understanding."
God Bless You!
2006-06-12 12:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by alabamakevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women have been in a situation like you and just decided the hell with men.
It is undersatndable but just don't go into that mentality that all men are the same.
Your ex- is an a** , you do not need that highschool b.s. Just dial tone his a** and have some you time and focus on you right now.
2006-06-12 11:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by catalyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think, that somewhere along the line, you might open your eyes and realize you are the strange one for putting up with this...you do have options, and you choose to not exercise them...so what is the problem with YOU? You cannot ask a cat to change its behavior to a dog, and you are doing just that. Get over it and move one to wherever in the world you want to move. Trust that this guy has nothing to do with your sexuality.
2006-06-12 12:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is an ***...
Some people feel that they that they turn atrracted to the other sex(whatever, you know what I mean) because they were decieved...
and that is not true...
its just how you feel as of now..if you're bi, then go on, who's to sya that you can or cannot date a guy or a girl? Right?
2006-06-12 18:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by Chef Shortie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋