Thi syear I switched from a private school with 14 kids in my class to a public school with 247 kids in my class. I'm kind of shy and kids are callingme stuck up becasue I don't talk much. Help me!
2006-06-12 04:42:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just try to talk to people i had the same problem i know it can be hard but just be as nice as possible
2006-06-12 04:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by mi_gl_an 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem my freshman year .. I was so scared of the new big high school boys & girls I didn't talk much or froze up when anybody approched me.
The best thing for you to do is be open-minded. Be friends with everyone. Try saying hi to people you usually wouldn't. High school is crazy but most people like nice, honest, truly happy people.
Smile as much as you can while you're at school ... join some groups or sports. Kids will come around and see you're not stuck up ... and don't forget ..
It's Just High School .. it's really only the beginning of life try to learn as much as you can & don't worry too much about what people say or think of you ... be sure to make yourself happy before others and you'll see a difference !
2006-06-12 12:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always had this problem, too. If you're insecure about what others will think about you if you go up and say hi, remember they are also insecure, and therefore aren't judging you. :)
It's especially difficult in a school situation, but sometimes I still come across it as an adult. I'm reading this book that talks about breathing in a certain way when we're feeling shy. I tried it just last night, and it worked! It's long, deep breathing...breathe in through the nose, and out through the mouth. Like an extended sigh. It was such a release, and I gained the confidence to say hello to someone I feel nervous around, but want to get to know better.
Good luck! :)
2006-06-12 11:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard being the new kid, shy or not. One good thing to get you acclimated and let others get to know you is to join some clubs or extracurricular groups that interest you. Then you'll have time with them in a smaller setting which might suit you better, and it will allow them time to get to know you. You'll make some friends, and you'll gain greater acceptance the more friends you make.
But just remember to go into the situation as open to meeting people as you can. Shy people have a hard time opening up, but the best way to break the ice (for you and them) is for you to simply say hello to them.
2006-06-12 12:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be very difficult but you'll just have to let your guard down and make some friends and start talking to people that you dont know. At the very least, when someone tries to talk to you, just keep the conversation going instead of being short with them and giving "Yes" or "No" answers to their questions. When people ask "So what school did you come from?" instead of saying "(Name of School)" and leaving it at that. say "I went to (Name of School) over in (Name of location, city, state, etc). It was a really small school with only 14 kids, so it's a lot different that this. This school sure does have a lot of people" That way you sound like you actually want to talk to them instead of just answering a question and seeming like you dont want to talk to them. And the next time you hear someone say you're stuck up, just pipe up and say "I know you guys think I'm stuck up, but I'm just shy and not used to going to a school with so many people."
2006-06-12 11:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem...There is a HUGE difference b/t being stuck up and shy, however, stuck up and shy people portay most of the same characteristics, therefore, people just get the wrong impression...The ONLY way to get around that is to be more outgoing..You should try to work on that for more reasons than just people thinking you're stuck up. Trust me, she people do NOT get ahead..This is socially, in the work place, pretty much every aspect in life. If you don't come out of that shell, you're gonna be overlooked all your life and that's no fun...I am now 24, and I spent most of my early years being she. Once I overcame that, life has been soooooo much better for me. Also, people aren't just shy for no reason. Most of the time there's some kind of insecurity about oneself that causes them to be shy. YOu have to find out your reason and tackle it head on...I was a fat kid growin up...That's why I was shy. Once I lost all my weight, my personality changed also...
2006-06-12 11:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by mesofemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what the only thing you can do is talk more.
When somone asks you a question don't give one word answers. Also try asking general questions in a crowd and laugh at jokes even if they are stupid.
I don't like talking much, but I do talk a little I mean
how else are you going to meet anyone right.
Also keep in mind that the ones that are calling you stuck up could probably be jealous of you. Ask yourself one steps are they taking to get to know you?.
Whatever you do don't go out of your way to please no one unless you feel they deserve it.
2006-06-12 12:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of shy people. I've experienced the same thing in my life. What I've learned is that I am who I am. A person who is truly shy can't simply change that and be some one who isn't shy. You have to learn to be comfortable with who you are and not care so much about what people think. These people are probably people you don't ultimately want to be friends with because they are making a judgment about who you are without even bothering to get to know you. I've learned to tell people like that, that if that is what they want to believe fine but maybe they shouldn't judge a book by its cover.
2006-06-12 11:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax sweetie it's ok to be shy. But, if people are trying to be nice to u. Try to open by talking one on one day. Switching schools is hard. Let them know that. I used to be shy too.
2006-06-12 11:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by lambgroni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with some of them. Be a little more open with them. They probably think you have money and are too good for them. show them that you aren't. Actions speak louder than words, in this case though your best action may be to use words. Funny how that works out some times. good luck.
2006-06-12 11:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by prof56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something really stupid and embarrassing. When others see you have the ability to laugh at yourself, they will know you're not stuck up. Snobs aren't able to laugh at their short comings.
2006-06-12 12:29:17 · answer #11 · answered by kymhayde2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋