I have known my best friend since she was 6. She is now 16 and I am now 18. When we both got older we started hanging out with different groups of people, but for the most part, we still hung out. Now we barely even talk. I think it might be because I'm 18 and all her other friends are 16. I feel so pathetic. I feel like I'm not cool enough to hang out with her friends. I even asked her if she was embarrased to have me around. Even though she says that we are still best friends, I find myself wondering what I can do to feel accepted. Please give me any advice you can. Bash me, criticize me, or instruct me. I don't care, just please give me advice on what to do. I miss her so much. Thank you.
2006-06-12 04:40:17 · 14 answers · asked by giggling_elephants 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is tough. People so often grow apart. The fact that you have been able to hold on to your friendship this long is amazing.
She right now is probably thinking of you more as a big sister rather then a friend that she hangs out with. Though it is hard for you to make that transition there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Be honored! Be there for you when she needs you but do not push yourself on her.
There is going to be a day when she will need you and it is important that you are there for her.
But in the meantime hangout with your friends.Do not cut the ties just do not hold them so tightly.
2006-06-12 04:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been friends since you were 8, why would it matter if you were older and who cares if you're not cool enough to hang out with her other friends. If you miss her, just call her, talk to her, invite her over for a party or whatever, just talk to her! She probably misses you to. If you were best friends, you shouldn't have to feel accepted and if she is embarrased to be around you anymore, thats her problem because she's probably missing out on a really good friend.
2006-06-12 11:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Christiana C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand this you two are totally different people and of cause that means two you two will make different choices, along this avenue we call life. That does not mean that you two are not friends any more. For what you share with your Friend is between you and your friend only. The both of you can not expect each other to act in the same way your external friend do. Why? because you two are just different. So the best thing that you two can do is enjoy what the both of you have in common.And have a happy life.
2006-06-12 11:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look true friends hang out with u wether ur 18 or 51, have purple hair or blonde or what ever color u have, wether ur big or small, they love u anyways and if age is what is getting inbetween u and her then she's not a true friend.If u don't feel the same way that i do, then talk to her and tell her what u think about the situation and if she continues to blow u off then it just wasn't ment to be!!! Well Good Luck!!! :o)
2006-06-12 11:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Blond-E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, find friends that u can actually hang out with. Come on, not cool enough, your not cool any more your grown, a grown *** woman, who should be doing grown *** things. Baby girl call her up every now and then, but she's growing into the person she's gonna be, if yall are different then let be what may.
2006-06-12 11:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by luvsick1723 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you how she felt, but I don't think she was totally honest. It seems as though she didn't want to hurt your feelings. Maybe one of her others friends doesn't like you, for whatever knuckle head reasons. Trying to hard to be accepted will only be hurtful for you in the end. Be yourself, people go thru phases in life, go thru yours and let her go thru hers. You've already let her know you still care about her and your friendship. She's at that age where things go wild for a teenager, so let her go thru it. Don't worry you'll be good friends again, however, pushing it will only drive her away. Best of Luck to you.
2006-06-12 11:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by LovesVanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a transition period for your friendship....it may take a couple years before you both really find enough compatibility to be closer friends....just accept what there is and allow time to lesson the gap between the two of you.....the need is still there, its just not immediate..give it time.
2006-06-12 11:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you told her how you feel then just move on. find a new best friend your age. now I'm not saying that ya'll can't be friends because you can. its just that she has more things in common with them remember she is younger, but if you find one your age then you will have more things in common with them. i hope this helps in some way if not sorry.
2006-06-12 11:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by sweet heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in life you need to know when to move on.try making new friends get busy,go to school,learn a new language try somthing that she's dreaming of douing but could'nt do it and let her know about it.she will see you as a hero and intoduse her friends to you,but you still need to play mature afterall,youare 18 now.
2006-06-14 10:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by tolotolo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already told her how you fell than maybe you should consider making a new friend.
2006-06-12 12:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Carly-Rae<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋