I used to go out with this guy and used to and still love him very much. About two years ago I started seeing him and I loved him nearly straight away but after about a year he got sick and started having panic attacks and he was confused all the time about his feelings towards me and his friends and family he finished with me for about three days and told my that he did in fact love me and that he was just having a bad few days, and after a few more months of having him ignore me and refusing to came and see me because he couldn’t be bothered and wouldn't let me come and see him because he wanted to be alone because the tablets he had to take made him depressed , in the end he finished with me again. Now we've been split up for a good seven or eight months and now he wants me back and I’d love to go back but I’m so afraid of him not physically but emotionally. He’s said he's better now. Please help me I’m supposed to go and meet him in half an hour.
2006-06-12 04:37:26 · 14 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why not see him and discuss what it is he has been dealing with before making a decision about seeing him in terms of a relationship. If he can't be honest with you about what he has been dealing with then I wouldn't get involved with him. Relationships are about sharing and working through things and if he can't start by being honest about things then forget it.
2006-06-12 04:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not mentally stable and if you keep playing the rollercoaster game with him, you won't be mentally stable either. Cut him off and move on. I know it's hard, because you may be emotionally connected with him, but you have start now. In the end, you'll feel better and know that you made the right decision. Life is too short for the nonsense.
2006-06-12 11:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by LovesVanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Before they found the right medicine for me I acted much like he did. It could be they have now got him on medicine that is really helping in which case he will be just fine. Why don't you meet him and judge for yourself if you think he is OK. Having to take meds for this is no different than taking insulin or heart meds..on the right one he should be fine. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-12 11:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how to answer that one, but I do know one thing, you need to seek out some professional counseling on this very delicate subject. I wouldn't look for a quick fix to your problems coming from a bunch of strangers on the Internet. You need to sit down and talk to a qualified Psychologist on that one, and examine your feelings.
2006-06-12 11:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i dont know what to say my ex had a similar problem and i love him to death too i think u should give him one last chance expecially if before his illness yall had goodtimes. if u try again and the relationship isnt meant to be atleast u know its time to closes that chapter of ur life .... good luck
2006-06-12 11:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by ice solid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional abuse is as bad or worse than physical abuse. DO NOT subject yourself to it for even one second. It's easy to think that someone has changed....if you really want to give him a chance, be smart...take it slow and easy....do NOT move in with him....let him date you....let him "woo" you....give him 6-12 months to prove himself to you. If he's really changed, you'll be able to tell in that time.
2006-06-12 11:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Squirrel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can meet and talk to him however we have our heart and brain to use if ever, in deciding if you want to be with him we have this women instinct, wisdom when you are in doubt about his stability dont...on the other hand you can still offer him your friendship maybe he needs a friend
2006-06-12 11:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by audrey1330 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally wouldn't get myself involved again.... its just setting yourself up to be let down again.... but sometimes, to figure out true feelings, you have to take a chance....since you are meeting him in 30 minutes, go for it and just talk to him..... keep your guard up, evaluate, and look for signs that he might not be as alright as he says he is.... just tread lightly because this seems to be a delicate situation....
good luck!
2006-06-12 11:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get someone who's in good mental health.....this one sounds like he's on the way out!
2006-06-12 11:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by jhairyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound like a healthy relationship and you will probley just end up hurt if anything at all you should only be friends with him
2006-06-12 11:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by hmmm..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋