my husband has a friend that is 10 or more years younger than him. "John" is ALWAYS at our house. I come home from work wanting to relax, and he's there. He doesn't leave for hours after. We have a young family as well, and "John" is always yapping about all of his girlfriends and who he's been with. His language has tones down after I have repeatedly told him to stop. I try not to pay attention about him talking about all the girls that he's been with, but it doesn't help, as he continues on. I am getting sick and tired of his presence around our house all the time. My husband knows how I feel, but when he's around him, he always acts immature and maybe wants to be like him for some reason. Please help, before my marriage is adios!
2006-06-12 04:14:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell your husband that if john doesn't leave, you will. get the hell out of dodge.
if your hubby can't respect your feelings then he's a dick and needs to wake up. it's your house too so you have the right to say who you don't want in it.
why can't they go somewhere else to talk....like a bar or something?
it seems odd that he's even friends with this dude. like he's going through mid-life crisis maybe? marriage does that i guess.
2006-06-12 04:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by musikalgrl20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you, your kinda in a catch 22. if you demand that your husband not be friends with this John' then all he'll want to do is just that.thus creating more problems within your relationship itself.such as trust' control' and on and on. so how to handle a situation like this....well, first have you asked your man why he enjoys Johns company so much? Does he live vicarously through his buddy's tales of getting some trim? I'd ask him why he fills up so much of his time with a person that offends (you) and obviously has little respect for your family life. When you inquire on his thoughts don't expect the response that you wish you could hear, let him answer honestly. Cause you can work with the truth, & theres probably more to the friendship than just whats on the surface,(could be some kind of male ego thing going on)maybe now that your man has settled down a bit he might secretly feel that he's lost his (BIG SEXY).. After your casual BIG talk, be cool and start hanging out with them a little bit more on the fun side of yourself and without being to big of a ***** start pointing out what an idiot this guy is to be running so much drag, and start showing your hubby how lucky he is to have a woman whos loves him and children that look up to him, and that the truth is, HE's got it going on, not SQUAWKING John who will probably end up with some kinda v.d. hahahaha. Good luck, & be cool,and play this out for what it is! oh and make sure that you start looking hot, for yourself, as well as your man. Sometimes men tend to forget that their woman is still that sexy chick they fell for in the first place. So remind him where the real action is," with you" not in John's adventures.
2006-06-12 12:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by george k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to make a decision to respect your space and family values or to let you know what his intentions are. if this is some outreach just so your husband can feel young again, then have him write out a list of things that he misses in "youthful life" and have him compare it to a list of things that he has in his present life, ask him what makes your younger friend better then your life now? do you really think that living off the glory of someone 10years younger will make you feel better about your life now?
2006-06-12 11:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by JerseyBleu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't YOU tell "John" to leave. I went through the same thing. It's your house, too. I really got to the point you are at right now, and I told the cat to leave. My ex got angry, but I didn't care. He should have repect for your wishes.
2006-06-12 11:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being selfish and allow your husband to have a friend. I'm sure some of the stuff you talk about with your girlfriends is annoying to your husban.
2006-06-12 11:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by tobcol 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell john how you feel...there is no other way around it...if it pisses your husband off...so what...he obviously doesn't have any disregard for how you feel when john is around...i have done it may times...unless john is a total retard he will stop imposing on you...good luck!!!
2006-06-12 11:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by countrygirlcansurvive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a similiar problem, just talk to u'r huband let him know how u feel and be firm that you dont his friend over as offeten dont cut the freind out , that'll make it worse, just slowly cut him off..... Dont worry it'll get there
2006-06-12 11:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET JOHN ALONE WITHOUT HUBBY AND EXPLAIN IT HIM UNDER NO UNCERTAIN TERMS HOW IT IS GOING TO BE FROM HERE ON OUT
2006-06-12 11:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to step up to the plate and say something about him to your husband
2006-06-12 11:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by DIESEL44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them both that they can't hang out as much or just have soo much sex with your husband that he is too tried and too busy to want to hang out with him
2006-06-12 11:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by snowboarder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋