I told my my bf that I was going out with my mother this past weekend and he got annoyed. All day long, he kept picking arguments with me. He was really cruel with me and hurt my feeling really bad. I know I overreacted and blew off at him but only because he pushed me to that limit. It seems to me that he doesn't like when I go out, and he won't take me out dancing which is what I love to do. I love him deeply, but he won't listen to me. What's up with this guy?
2006-06-12 04:00:38 · 13 answers · asked by Sandy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's training you to be an abused wife.Isolating you from others and making you feel alone is key here.Next he will make you feel worthless and grateful that he puts up with you.Check out the married ones who never seen it coming on this very site.Dump him and find a real man.
2006-06-12 06:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Roscoe0150 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is what you said about your boyfriend: he was really cruel; he hurt your feelings; he pushed you to the limit; he doesn't like when you go out; he won't take you dancing; he won't do what you love to do; he won't listen to you; and you love him deeply.
Here's my question: Why? This is a guy who gets possessive and jealous, petty and angry. He doesn't listen to you or respond to your needs. He knows what makes you happy but he refuses to do it. What exactly is the basis for your relationship?
It sounds to me like your boyfriend has a lot of growing up to do. If you reward him for his behavior by staying with him, he will never have any reason to change. Maybe it will require losing a few girlfriends before he gets the hint.
Get rid of this guy and look for a man who actually cares about your happiness. It will be the best for both of you.
2006-06-12 04:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Loss Leader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, Love is a state of confusion for most, especially the younger. They think they can explain what they feel as love and sometimes the word they use to describe it is not really what it is. Love comes from the heart and is a pure emotion that enables us to overlook attributes or actions of another that may not be right.. How many times have you heard, "Yeah, I know he/she did it but I still LOVE him/her!" Still confused, sure you are, you are in love.
2006-06-12 04:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to be attatched at the hip and you have chosen a NEEDY guy to date. He shouldnt make you feel bad for spending time with your own mother. Its not as if you were hanging out with another guy or something!! Do yourself a favor and either tell him to shape up or ship out!!
2006-06-12 04:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by trystero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up to him and say, listen to me and tell me whats wrong or it's over. If he loves you enough he'll listen and tell you what his problem is and if he doesn't then he doesn't love you as much as you love him and you should be with a guy like that so dump him.
2006-06-12 04:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tcg_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you to stay home and do nothing you need to tell him your not a child and to trust you if he doesn't want to take you out then you'll go out with your friends and that's pity for him to get mad at you because you want to go out with your mom if i was you i would get out now because things will only get worst and then he'll be hitting you because you don't listen
2006-06-12 04:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is never confusing, he might be hiding something from you. because he knows that when he go out , he is not visiting the "guys" or his mother either.
2006-06-12 04:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Han_dang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is insecure, did he have a revious relationship that ruined his trust? My boyfriend was like that at first but then i started to do the same thing to him so he could see how it felt, things are better and better everyday!!!
2006-06-12 04:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as all of us know guy only want sex and nothing elso they don;t care about your feel maybe it time to teach him a lesson honey, dump him or first talk to him about your feeling and tell him he sould repect you and do thing your way to something well good luck with it
2006-06-12 04:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any reason that he may not trust you? It could be that he wouldn't trust himself if he was away from you! But never gice up your freedom just because he gets mad, he will get over it!
2006-06-12 04:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by notoldjustwise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋