My gf loves me as much as I love her. We've been together for 10 years and she honestly admitted being physically attracted to another man at work who's also physically attracted to her. I imagined being in her shoes and I know I'd truly appreciate such a complete trust to fulfill this *one time* physical desire, so I told her that if it's only physical and that nothing will change her emotional feelings, she might as well do it.
That was about 6 months ago. She still didn't do it, but I've always wondered if it's insane for me accept such a thing.
2006-06-12 03:47:38 · 26 answers · asked by Lyvy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's awesome that you guys have such open communication!
You're not crazy. There are plenty of people in this world who have open relationships and they are very secure and happy couples. (look into the swinging lifestyle... there's tons of info out there that may intrest you)
It's perfectly normal to be physically attracted to someone besides your partner, and to give her permission to act on her feelings is a very loving gesture.
If you two continue to be so open and honest with one another you with be together forever. Bravo!
2006-06-12 05:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by mutherwulf 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
yep. you are crazy. it's a really bad idea. you're only asking for trouble. there's too many "what if's?" involved with that type of situation.
not only that but don't you think she might feel somewhat offended that you would let her do such a thing? i don't think i would even want my boyfriend to let me do that. it's just weird and it would make me feel like he didn't really care about me that much.
on the other hand....if you're gonna have sex with someone else, being open honest about it is probably better than cheating.
not to make you paranoid, but how do you know she didn't? do you think she'd tell you? she works with the guy so she could be doin it with him at work and you wouldn't know.
2006-06-12 03:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by musikalgrl20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's refreshing to see a bit of maturity about something of that sort. However, all too often it is more damaging to a relationship to open it up to the sexual encounters with others type situation than it is any good. My suggestion would be to have a serious conversation clearly defining wants, needs, and the lines that can/can't be crossed. Find out if she wants to have an "open" relationship, and see if she feels that she can handle that kind of thing. It takes blunt honesty and good moral value (even though some may disagree here) to stay true to the relationship and yet keep the sexual side of the relationship open.
On the side, I wish you good luck with this, and with your relationship.
2006-06-12 03:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dark_Lady_Kizanth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it down right crazy. Because if she is that physically attracted to this guy and the sex turns out to be just as great. You are going to be in trouble. It's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone else but don't ever give her permission to go ahead and sleep with someone else. Because it will not be a one time thing.
2006-06-12 03:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't crazy. You are stupid. People are going to be attracted to other people. That's human nature, but just because there is an attraction does not mean that it's acceptable to act on it.
That was just plain dumb to tell her to sleep with him if she wants. Don't be surprised if she starts questioning your feelings for her or what you are doing when she isn't around.
2006-06-12 03:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fine approach to get your man off and go away him looking extra is so that you can a hundred and ten% revel in your self in the bed room. I by no means fear about pleasing my husband. I best am out to delight myself (no longer selfish incidentally). The intent being is for the reason that he's going to have no quandary getting off, however when he sees me pleasing myself utilizing his instruments, he's so grew to become on. I know what feels good to me, and bet what? He quite desires to please me ( given that we're tougher to get off than they're). After they see & hear that your are having the time of your lifestyles, this pleases them. Do guys want a little bit TLC in the bedroom? OF path, so occasionally, you mess around with them and discover what they need from you rather then just the genuine intercourse act. When they're honest with you, that you can flip them on better than TEXAS each and every and every time. And incidentally my husband likes his prostate fondled along with all of the different stuff. Just right luck
2016-08-08 22:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by gadis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is good that you have such an open relationship but I do not think that I would do the same in your shoes.
2006-06-12 03:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you going to do when the next guy comes along that catches her eye? Tell her that it's OK just this ONE TIME? If that is what you feel you need to do to keep your woman happy after 10 years just remember this...once you give her to another man she will never really be yours again.
2006-06-12 04:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by Striker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe that it will be a one time thing, and you are comfortable with it then by all means let it happen. But you must really consider the possiblities of how you would feel towards her, and her towards you. ask your gf how she would feel if you posed the feelings for another woman. talk sincerly about it with her first and work it out together. if it's what you both want then by all means do it. but remember to think about how you would feel about another man being with your gf. and your gf should think about you being with another woman. goodluck and GBU.
2006-06-12 04:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i think you are insane but at the same time nice. If she did have sex with him ,i bet u wud have been mad ..dont deny it. Now good thing is that u have a faithful girl..but if u wanna keep her for long u better watch what you say to her.
i'd be mad at my bf if he ever said that too me.
but_keep her she is a keeper she is faithful to you dont ruin it.
2006-06-12 04:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by girl_with_a_broken_smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋