i jus gave birth and recently few ladies been calling my spouse.. i dunno whether i can trust him when he tells me that he dunno any of them.. i am suspicious all the time and i have come to the point that i wanna give up on the marriage and not bother to even salvage the relationship.. don't bother to tell me to go for candle light dinners to spice up the romance cos my spouse would not even bother to think of a place to go...i hate being the only person trying to spice things up... and the only answer that my spouse gives me is that he doesn't have any idesa where to go or wat to do..tell me is this the end of the rd????
2006-06-12 03:31:36 · 5 answers · asked by gwen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it's all the end but if you have suspicions I think you should give yourself and your child sometime away from your spouse. Especially if your not happy and starting to feel uncomfortable, than you need to do something for you. Before I suggest my plan I need to first suggest that you build some strong back bone and let him know the consequences if this does not stop because you have a feeling that something is going on. Now my idea, I've been with my boyfriend for A few years now and were planning to marry in four years just to see if any one of us will change our mind. Now, last year I began to suspect a little and asked him and he denied. Well this kept going and it wouldn't stop and I warned him. One day I packed up all my stuff and disappeared on him and made my family act like they didn't know. When it came to find he was deeply hurt and realized that I meant more to him than he thought. After that he straightened up and never did it to me again. He's much more now that I ever expected and he's a much more great person. That's an option, but now that I think of it I don't suggest it 'cause of your child. But I want you to build a back bone so you be happy enough.
2006-06-12 03:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rochelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if other lady are calling your spouse did you ask him what they wanted?and did you get a reply back from your spouse?this should be the happyest time in your life.is this your first baby?well what i would do is look at him stright in the eye and ask him the question if he is seeing some one else and if he cant look in in the eye or walk away from you and tell you no then you know some thing up.when men have a fare on there wife it because other women cant get it at home because there husband out doing it to other women and the world keep turning.being marry these days are such a joke.yeah it good for a while but marry life doesnt last very long at all these days.so i would divorce him and stick it to him when you go to court.
i wish you the best of luck
2006-06-12 10:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he having affairs on you? You need to get counseling and help for this . I am sure he does know them . he just does not wanting you know that he does. Try calling them back sometime and see what they have to say. Do you have caller id? If not then get it and then you will know and can call them back. If it is on his cell you can do it on there too and if he does not want you doing this then he definitley is hiding things from you and is more then likely cheating!!!
2006-06-12 11:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, congratulations on your baby!
Second off, dump his ***. No kidding. If "A" lady started calling my man after we got married, I'd kick his *** so hard, he'd never find it because it'd be up to his stomach.
I'm sorry to be so mean, but NO MAN should have other women calling him while he's married, let alone a new father.
2006-06-12 10:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you came to a fork in the road of life, take the one that looks paved, and leave this man and these mystery women behind. Congrats on the baby!!
2006-06-12 11:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋