A guy tried to pick me up, what does that mean?

Question

I'm not gay, I love women, and I don't think I'm bi. But yesturday I was walking down the street minding my own business, when this guy drove up to me and kept asking me if I wanted to hang out. I'm in my late 20's and he was clearly in his late 40's or 50's. I told him I was going home, and he got really exticted about me having my own place. I then told him I was busy. It took me awhile to relize he must have thought I was a male prostitute or something. I wasn't dressed like a male prostitute I think, in fact I wasn't dressed very well at all, my shirt wasn't even ironed. And the area was by a grade school and 2 churchs, plus it was the middle of the day so even if the area had male prostitutes I don't think they would be around.

I said all that to ask this, what was it about me that made this guy think I might be gay and/or a male prositute?

PS: Oh and if I was gay I like to think I could get a guy a lot hottier then that guy.

Answer 1

You experienced a practice called cruising . Some men cruse around and when they see someone who is attractive to them they will ask if they want to hang out , if the person says yes then it has worked if he says no then no harm done . I doubt if he thought you were a prostitute but it doesn't mean he would have been willing to pay you for sex . He may not have even thought you were gay , Some men like to give bjs to straight guys . Oh and by the way there are some really hot men in their 40s and 50s . ie Tom Cruse . Don't let it bother you , just be flattered he thought you were hot !

Answer 2

I don't think there was anything about you that said "gay" I do think there was a lot about this guy that said "freeloader". Don't worry about him, or the situation. I think he wanted to see if he could use you....especially since he got so excited about the fact that you had your own place.

Do you walk that route very often? And it's by a school? If you see him hanging out there a lot, I might say something to the police or someone at the school. He might be harmless, but then again, he might not be.

Answer 3

Yes if you do not brain paying $20 for a road lady in La Zona Norte (Tijuana Mexico's Red mild District) or in case your watching for a female friend to have a dating with it is less complicated for american guys to get a female friend down there vs the US believe guys which might be pissed off at the american scene pass overseas to latin american nations and certainly not seem again

Answer 4

Don't beat yourself up on this experience and worry that you are putting out "gay" signals. The man was probably just attracted to you no matter what. I hate to say this, but if you are young and under the age of 18, the man may have been a pedophile. If you are underage and see him try to pick you up again, then try to get his license plate number. 18 or not, you made the right decision in not getting into his car. He could have been a murderer on the prowl. Seriously. There are many different kinds of people in this world. Not all gay people are sensitive and respectful of others. (I am gay by the way and I am normally sensitive and highly respectful of others.....although I do get annoyed by some people on Yahoo Answers and have expressed my annoyance.) Anyhow, there really are killers and predators who happen to be gay out there. In your case, maybe the man in the car was just lonely and meant you no harm, but the fact that he zeroed in on how you have your own place is a HUGE red flag. Whatever his motive may have been, it is wise to not get into a car with a stranger no matter how old or big and strong you are. I wouldn't suggest anybody at any age to get in a car with a stranger. Don't beat yourself up or worry that people perceive you as being gay. You know you are not. Most likely everyone that matters in your life knows that you are not. But do know that you must be attractive if you are getting the attention of strangers. So you are an attractive heterosexual.

I once got hit on by an elderly man on a bicycle. I was sitting on my college campus on a summer afternoon reading a Bible and minding my own business. It was the afternoon of the 4th of July and so nobody else was around. Then this skinny, elderly man in a fishnet t-shirt stops by on his bike and does small talk with me and then he kept leaning in closer and closer and talking about how he just had to say goodbye to one of his 20-something lovers. Ick. I have never been sexually active and I was not doing anything gay at the time, and yet this OLD guy hits on me. Even though I am gay, I do not want people to just come up to me and think I am a piece of meat for sale--especially an ELDERLY man!!!!! That experience made me feel just "wonderful" about myself as you can probably imagine. I did get hit on at Panera Bread by a pretty, thin soccer mom in her 40s--I think she was married. I don't swing that way either--I don't swing period--and felt awkward in that situation too. But I had to tell myself that I must just be attractive in order to get the attention of these people.

Answer 5

It doesn't necessarily mean anything, except that he found you attractive. It doesn't mean that you were putting out a "gay vibe". After all, if you saw an attractive female, you might flirt with her, right? And if she's a lesbian, she might feel like you and wonder if she was putting out a "straight vibe", but you probably didn't even consider that she might be lesbian, just attractive. Don't get nervous, dude. If you're not into it, just say so. It's all cool.

Answer 6

i'm not sure if you can take that as a compliment. Maybe he thought you are some street hustler that would go for a quickie for cheap price. He's just desperate......

Answer 7

It no more indicates anything about you than the women that periodically try to pick me up indicate about me. I'm gay -- they are silly; you are straight -- he was silly.

Reyn

Answer 8

He was clearly desperate. Don't let his salaciousness sour your views on the gay community.

Answer 9

i dont think it says anything about you but a lot about him. it sounds like he was pretty desprete for sex and that he found you attractive on some level. he acted like you were gay because he needed you to be.

Answer 10

Maybe it just means he has REALLY poor gaydar.
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Maybe he was lonely and you look like the friendly, I'll-be-friends-with-you sort.

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Maybe it just means you're adorable.