I am stuck in a bind. My friend is in love with me platonically. He does not want to have sex with me. Period. I want to have sex with him very, very badly. I am sexually in love with him very strongly. We live on the same floor of an apartment building, just a few doors away from each other. What are my options to escape the dilemma I am living under? Do I have to move out? Do I have to find another boyfriend? I do not know what other options I could possibly have at this point. What do you think about my escape options?
2006-06-12 02:57:21 · 10 answers · asked by BrightGuy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't think you have a boy friend , He is your friend and likes you as s fiend but is not sexually attracted to you . You are simply not his type . There is no need to end the friendship just accept the fact that he is not in love with you and move on to find someone who finds you sexually attractive . You can't always have everything you want in life . There is no no need to get rid of a good friend . A friend who loves you will be around to support you and hang out with you when the boy friends are gone . Keep your friend and look for a boy friend .
2006-06-12 03:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both, move out AND find another boyfriend.
Because what is the other option? Live a half-life of feeling worthless and undesired? Shadowing your friend like a puppy constantly begging for scraps of sexual affection? Thats not a life man.
Run free and your heart will be broken for a while, but eventually you'll meet someone who wants all of you.
2006-06-12 09:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, if you value your friendship you will leave him alone and find someone else to direct your sexual energy towards. There's tons of guys out there for you. There's no need to ruin or damage a friendship over sex. Also, it's up to both of you to be more mature. He knows that you are sexually attracted to him, and he probally thrives on that attention. As for you, don't torture yourself over someone that is giving you mixed messages. Just be honest with yourself, you offerd and he declined, so move on. Don't move out buddy, never let other people decide actions in your life. Also you noted that he is "in love with you platonically", these seem more like your feelings that you are projecting on him. I love my friends yes,but "in" love with my friends "no". As always time and space heals everything, you'll get a man and so will he, and this will be just a bleep on the radar of life. So G'luck and I hope you figure it out:)
2006-06-12 04:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by mieldor76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to just stay a platonic friend, an move on. Friends are harder to find than a boyfriend that will be faithful to you.
2006-06-12 03:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lorenzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many different types of love and platonic love is one of them. Of course it is possible.
2016-03-27 01:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have platonic sex with him...think of him and masturbate!! :)!
on a more serious note, he just wants u as a friend; accept it and find a nice guy for yourself.
2006-06-12 03:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by NV 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, I would flirt a little bit with him and see if he flirts back, if he doesnt stop it just accept that for that, youll find that special somebody someday!!
****Keep your head up remember that sex isnt the only part of a relationship although most people act like it is!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-12 03:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by edw16ards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already told you 'NO" to anything occurring...what part of "NO" don't you understand. The feelings are not mutual, that is life, get used to it, happens to everyone all the time....no big deal. There are lots of good fish in the sea...go catch some.
2006-06-12 05:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't force someone to be your bf.....why so dramatic? just move on and find someone who share the same feelings....
2006-06-12 05:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him enough not to use him!
2006-06-18 11:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by K SHINE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋