i have no sex drive?

Question

im 23 i have been with my husband for nearly 8 years (married only 1) we have a 2 year old son. i have completly lots my sex drive, its not that i dont want my husband but i have no urge to have sex, its cause a real problem cause he thinks its him. i have explaned its not him but it still doesnt change the fact i have no sex drive, please help

i am not an any mediccation apart from evra contraception patches.

Answer 1

I absolutely understand where you're coming from...Even though I've never heard it happening that early, it's usually a hormonal imbalance to be blamed for. I'd experienced exactly the same since my last child had been born (he's now 2.5 yrs. old), and after long time arguings, fighting and even considering a divorce I finally confided into my OB/GYN, and she run some tests to check my hormone balance... and it came back quite surprising completely wacko!

So after some medication to get it re-adjusted, all seems to be back to 'normal' again...there are even days we hubby requests me to leave him alone... ;)

So, conclusion: Talk to your doctor and get some tests done...probably is just another hormonal disbalance you're suffering from...and if...you can be helped!

Answer 2

Having a young child can be one source of the problem, you see your time now is devided between your child and your husband. Also the house and a job if your working. Stress is a major reason why people loose there sex drive, do you feel sexy? Can you relax? Do you have me time? If you answer no to things then that is an area that you need to look at. Not to mention the fact that you are stressing about it and your feelings when you try to reasure your husband this has you going in circules and so this will never resolve. Take time each night when your child sleeps for yourself, maybe a bubble bath with a glass of wine or cool jucie and any problems leave them till the morning, mainly as nothing gets solved in the late night. Insure you get exercise if you dont like the idea of a gym work out in the house with music that uplifts you. Exercise boost you.And with your husband, well do you love him or are you still inlove with him, after eight years you can loose that zest not because of who you both are but because of time and family. Your lives have changed. Maybe getting some time alone to eat out and maybe home with a good filmm something to drink. Doing things togther helps bring you closer. Also have you talked to him about not the sex but the feeling of being depressed, run down. and yes maybe talking to your doctor, but please dont let your doctor put you on tablets if you can resolve it another way.There is a course for everthing, the trick, finding your reason.I wish you well, take care.

Answer 3

You are in a rut. In order to keep a healthy sex life in a relationship, other aspects have to be healthy as well, like good communication, mutual respect and admiration, common interests and goals. Once anyone of these is out of sinc, it affects the relationship and then affects our drive, sexually. It works this way for women as well as men. You need to properly assess your life and admit to yourself if you are truly happy or not. Are you doing exactly what you want to be doing in life or would you like to make certain changes. If so, is your partner supportive of these changes? Marraige councelling is also a good idea. You could start by going individually and then go together to bring all your concerns together. Good Luck.

Answer 4

It's pretty common to have a decreased sex drive after child birth. However, you are young - it could be a hormonal inbalance. You should visit with your doctor and share with them your concerns. There are routine tests they can do to eliminate certain aspects (thyroid, hormone levels, etc). It's good that you keep explaining to your husband that it isn't him, but if that's not working try taking the next step by having a doctor address this...

Answer 5

Scary or just a coinsidence-- My son is two this month and i have recently lost my drive-- I am 32 though not as young as you. If it's no that you don't desire your hubby have u thought that perhaps you may be feeling a little low?
I'm no trying to put something there that isn't, but i developed depression soon after having my son and my drive still to this day has not returned to 'normal' but i put mine now down to hormones

Answer 6

are you under alot of stress? Taking medication? Sometimes stress & medication have an effect on ones sex drive..I suggest you talk with your doctor..I went through premature menapause at the age of 19...No desire for sex at all..I was put on hormones for about 3 months and then I was fine after that...I was having all the symptoms of a woman going through the "CHANGE".

Answer 7

Are you on birth control? Those hormones can kill your sex drive. Does your husband nag you about it, or other things? That can knock you out of the mood. Perhaps you need to discover yourself again (if you get my meaning) before you let your husband come play.

Answer 8

im 24 and also in the same situation as yours,i think its becouse of the problems you had in the past,like sex or situations that will lead to trust or it maybe the way he handles you or the change of hormones.im thinking that might be the problem,im trying to work on it.

Answer 9

Are you getting enough rest? Are you eating right? Are you exercising? Do you ever get a break from your little one? Do you go on "dates" with your husband? Has he tried to entice you to bed or are you just supposed to feel like it when he wants it?

Answer 10

this often happens after having a baby.

leave it slightly longer but also try and spice up your sexlife with forplay and other positions, this may make you want sex again.

if this doesnt work then go to your doctor