my future husband wants to ask my dad for my hand in merriage and the way my dad said this was he said that i was to young to move out with my man and that i was to young to get hitched . im 21 and i have a good eduation. he wanted to ask my dad and now he is complelty nervuse. what do i do ?
2006-06-12 02:37:05 · 16 answers · asked by jamie m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you are 21 you are an adult and I think that your man should get the courage to ask your father in your hand in marriage.Talk to your father and be like how would it feel if I would get married? Just give him some clues that your going to no matter what since you love your man.Right?Since you love him that much youll do whatever to marry him.So good luck and Ihope everything goes well.
2006-06-12 02:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by diorlatinaprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Tight spot. I won't tell you what to do, but I'll give you both sides:
1. Your dad has only your best interest in mind. He wouldn't say no because he wants you to be unhappy. You should probably talk to him about why he believes it's in your best interest not to be married yet. I can tell you that if you and your siginificant other really are meant to be, taking time to get your dad on board will only help you in the future. If your relationship is meant to last, time is your friend. Start by asking your dad what he thinks you should do before being married. Compromise is a good thing too.
2. Don't send your S.O. to humiliation if you haven't successfully conveyed to your dad how much this person means to you. Don't present it as an ultimatum, present it as his daughter wanting to tell her father what really means quite a bit to her. You might give your dad a heads up that he's soon going to have to make a decision to let you chase your happiness which you currently see in this person or give you an ultimatum. He may not like your choice and you really don't want an ultimatum.
Remember, your dad cares about you. You have to show him that you care about this person before he will care what your "future husband" wants.
BTW, I would side with your dad about education. "merriage" is spelled "marriage". Getting married and having kids can make it more difficult to focus on education.
2006-06-12 10:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by NYC2RTP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you are 2 young to get married so why not just move in with your man an try things out... U should wait at least 2 more years...
2006-06-12 09:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy_Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very nice of him to want to ask your dad. Why dont you go with him when he does this so that he has your support and love during it. If your dad feels you are too young then that is his choice but you know how you feel and if you are ready to commit or not. Grow up and go from here!
2006-06-12 11:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to do it has been my experience a lasting marriage starts with the support of the father to the bride-groom. He will run interference for the mother in law and make him accept your family easier. If you have to then wait and prove to him you want this guy forever tell him he makes you feel secure like he does no father can deny a daughter.
2006-06-12 09:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Best answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well-if your dad is a nut case, I would just leave and get married. But if your dad has any sense at all, then I would listen to him. Dads can know things that little girls don't. I would politely question him abut this, maybe he sees something that you do not. All normal dads do not want to release their daughters, that's just normal. But they also want their daughters to be healthy and "happy". He is probably just protecting you. He may not be trying to make your life miserable. Talk to him.
2006-06-12 10:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him ask your dad. It's respectful if nothing else. Then if your dad says no, you and your dad sit down and have a little talk about the whole thing, and if you can't change your mind, then you ask his mom for permission, and you propose.
2006-06-12 10:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father, "My boyfriend is going to ask your permission for marriage, you are going to give it to him". Either way you are going to do this right? Move in with him AFTER the wedding.
You are 21 you may do what you like.
2006-06-12 10:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA....lol dads yeah. But hey your dad just cares for you it's ok but if you feel your responsible to move out do what your heart tells you. don't worry he'll get over it as long as you visit him and let hi m know your ok.
Good luck!
Cupid
2006-06-12 09:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Cupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let the men handle that particular issue. But ultimately, you are 21 and if you want to get married and your father doestn want u to, then u are an adult.
2006-06-12 09:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋