I know a couple who had a good sex life during the first 6-7 months of their marraige. Bef marriage, they - spl the girl - felt that sex is a verrry imp part of marriage n that its very imp for a girl to LIKE it. 1year down the line, she feels that sex is not that imp in a marriage and that other things like emotional attatchment, responsibility etc are more imp. Even now, when they have sex, its very satisfying-spl for the wife.BUT now they have sex just abt 3-4 times a month.That has created a deep void in my friend's (male) life-he feels that he is not totally accepted by his wife. He had many ideas, many passions, many things to do with her physically, but before their sex life could settle down, the frequency reduced so much that his sexual dreams remained unattended forever.It is imp to note that otherwise (and for the wife-in all ways), they have a wonderful relationship and they love each other a lot. They hv talkd n they know that the freq should be more, bt it is not helping.
2006-06-12 01:47:14 · 6 answers · asked by life_is_rhythm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Any real life anecdote or serious help on this would be much appreciated.
2006-06-12 01:54:51 · update #1
I THINK SEX IS SECONDARY TO LOVE IN MARRIAGE. BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER, IS NOT IT SATISFYING?
2006-06-12 02:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by agni 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try getting them the Making Marriage Work teaching series @ http://www.enduringtruth.org/catalog.asp item # 771776
It tells couples how to form better relationships and talks about the importance of meeting each others sexual needs along with a lot of other practical advice on how couples can have a better married life.
2006-06-12 08:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is important within a marriage.of course at first it's gonna be all the time and then slow down a bit.i wouldn't take it to personal if it's only a few times a month. once a week. if you plan to be married for the rest of your life you have plenty of time to explore all those positions with each other. just relax once in awhile and hold her with affection then she might aproch you with it
2006-06-12 09:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by kansasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some kind of counseling is required by both of them or else this could lead to misunderstandings later....
HER:the counseling is required to know that sex is also an important part otherthan emotions
HE:Counseling is required to know how exactly thins could be turned into their favour.
May be on consultation they might also go for medicines initially to increase the desire for one another
2006-06-12 09:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Adi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmmm. First, we, guys, are ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT SEX. Second, them, girls, are ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT FEELINGS/SENTIMENTAL STUFF.
Yes, sex is an important thing in marriage, but as the girl says, responsibility, attachment, commitment, and security, among others, are the most important things in a marriage. Your friend MUST pay attention to this stuff, since I think that his wife is looking for these stuff, which she doesn't seem to see/receive in their relationship.
If your friend wants 24/7 sex, OH MY!, he must provide her all the security, attachment, and lovely (fairy, pinky, girly) stuff that she deserves. As soon as he fulfills her needs, she will give him all the sex that he wants. Girls are wise, VERY WISE AND SMART, and they know us very well. She will give him what he wants as soon as she feels secure, honored, loved, and protected.
Tell your pal to contact me, for real... Take care and good luck.
2006-06-12 09:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by dioshy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is strange - usually newly mmarried couples are always at each other.
2006-06-12 10:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋