ive been trying to change me and t you know its pretty touch mostly when i am sitting on the side lines. i dont care to deceive and lie .if i am being my self i lose the relationship. please tel me what your experience is ?will you respond?
God bless you
2006-06-12 01:36:31 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
It is pretty normal.
It is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree. It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.
A lot of it has to do with confidence. The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have. If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.
Not only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure. A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life). The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her. I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out. If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.
Most girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men. The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl. The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.
A part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl. The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.
There are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
2006-06-12 12:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by ***** 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The fact is no women deserve or like man who is abusive. it is about moral. In fact woman thinks abusive man as insecure, coward and mental unhealthy.
You can keep on being yourself but most probabyly you will be alone and distance for the rest of your life. Or prepare for the consequences! Maybe you could get away with it but what happens one day you meet a girl and take "No" for your behaviour. Jail is the answer..
2006-06-12 02:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this guy who thought he could use me as a punching bag.... Let me tell you that he is never going to hit or punch me again. He is to scared to. SO NO ALMOST EVERY WOMEN WILL NOT LIKE AN ABUSIVE MALE. SO MAYBE YOU NEED TO GET A GRIP
2006-06-12 03:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think anyone likes to be abused, although some think they deserve it.If you love that person the chain is hard to break, but if you allow it you are an enabler.
2006-06-12 01:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one likes to be abused, if some girls do then there is something mentally wrong with them. And if a woman allows a man to abuse her the man will think its ok to abuse all women. women who think abuse is ok need serious help....so do u if u abuse women
2006-06-12 04:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may need sone counselling . some women like abusive men but those are the kind of women u should be dating. they are either thiefs or agents for drug dealers or mafia networks. u can also talk to a church leader.
2006-06-12 02:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh loves it and she a nasty pig with uti and std yeast infection. Just read her questions. Ohhh don't be a punk beotch and ask a question or let me email you, you stanky ohhh. You are just sitting their waiting you coward cunuck
2006-06-12 11:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a codependent relationship. each get something out of it. it's not healthy...your question rather confusing need more info on your personal relationship....
2006-06-12 02:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep asking the same question over and over..and I dont even understand your question?
2006-06-12 01:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by julia4evert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋