My wife gets nuts if I smoke a cigar in the house. I confine the smoking to the kitchen, with window open and ceiling fan on. I have no other pleasures, and won't give it up. She doesn't work, goes to casino's, spends days on beach, goes clothes shopping, gets waxed, nails, etc. I never stop her from doing what she wants or likes. I think I should be able to at least smoke a cigar when I want. Who is right?
2006-06-12 01:34:03 · 13 answers · asked by R.Longo L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One question for you, do you pay the house payment? Yes? Well if you do keep smoking those cigars in the house. Tell your wife whats up. I smoke my pipe in the house, although my wife likes it. I guess it is a different situation.
2006-06-12 13:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Cowboy Jacob 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you could both compromise and give a little here in this situation. Neither one of you is right here but yet you are both right. Why dont you smoke outside and away from her so as to not offend her or to hurt her? Maybe she could cut back on the casinos and going out so much and spend more time with you at least one day a week. You both may need counseling and help as well.
2006-06-12 11:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I smoke cigars but I don't believe in smoking them indoors. I even stopped smoking them in my truck because it smelled like an ashtray on damp days and coated the windows with a dark film that I was always washing.
If you have the money to indulge her hobbies then you can take the other guy's advice and add a den to your house with a good exhaust fan and big screen TV. Why fight with the wife. life is too short to be miserable. Compromise dosen't have to hurt.
2006-06-12 09:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nether of u.why smoking cigar?b/c u like cigar ok why she want to go casino.spend on the beach,shopping,getting waxed,nails... b/c she like to done this.i think both of u are selfish.why u discuss this thing with Ur wife,be open,Innocent...if both of u are open each other u can carry her bad thing the other hand she can carry Ur bad thing so discussion is the major life in marriage.
2006-06-12 10:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Balma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smoking a cigar is fine, if that the only place away from everything smoke away, but if you have a garage, shed, or your car,or a patio can you go out and enjoy it also their? she might not want it in the house because she hate the smell. so help out and enjoy it some where else.
2006-06-12 08:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is because smoking is not the right thing to do and if she doesnt want that in the house then you should respect her wishes and go outside that smoke leaves an unplesant scent in the house as well as in your clothes and hair. And the reason you havent stopped her from doing her thing is because what she's doing is positive yours is not so she is my brotha
2006-06-12 09:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by glamorous 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand her position, maybe if you built you a little smoking room, one that has a place for you to relax and enjoy the cigar but yet close enough to her she will except it. Talk to her about it.
2006-06-12 08:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that is a great idea, as long as she gives up her guilty pleasures. If she isn't willing, keep on smoking them! She shouldn't get everything she wants with out letting you have something you want.
2006-06-12 10:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by jawmom_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have all those other habits, but the fact is that you're wrong for exposing her to second hand smoke that she clearly doesn't want to be subjected to.
2006-06-12 08:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to smoke that cigar anywhere you like. she obviously does what she wants, and besides, its your house too ain't it. FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS. don't give in.
if she don't like it, she should go to a different room.
2006-06-12 09:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by NS42day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋