he works long hour days, but im ready to just start pulling out my toys in fron of him and start going at it, i have needs too. i dont know what else to do?
2006-06-12 01:31:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know I think that is what is wrong with relationships the embarrassment of masturbation. I would do it and if he trips which I don't think will because if you have them already then he is comfortable with toys, but if he does trip just tell him "if I have to use the vibrator that means I am not cheating right, I just know you are stressed and I feel this is what I need because I am not stressed just horny" or just tell him to lay back and watch I don't know any guy who don't like to watch a women masturbate I mean that's why we watch porn.
2006-06-12 01:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Best answer 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's difficult when someone who works long hours comes home and one spouse feels amorous and the other doesn't. There is nothing wrong with your marriage, though. Fatigue can definitely kill your sex life. However, use your toys to please yourself, and try to find a time when you both will be free to have "fun". Make a date of it. If you have kids, get a babysitter and have an old fashioned, romantic night out toegther. Then, when you return home, you'll both be ready for a fantastic night of lovemaking. Neither of you will feel pressured or be frustrated. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. Your husband may get very turned on watching you "perform", and he may want to do the same for you. On nights when he comes home tired, maybe a "quickie" using the toys will satisfy you, and you can satisfy him with your favorite technique. Be patient, and creative, and realize that you are not alone.
2006-06-12 10:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress only goes so far. With a man, sex is like burping after beer. It's inherent. If he's not putting out, something is wrong.
Try talking first. He might be disappointed about something with you.
If that isn't it, dress up for work and put on perfume. Put on stockings and garters. Dress like you're out to seduce someone.
If that doesn't work either, your problems are more serious and probably mean another woman.
2006-06-12 09:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by William 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The stress of work might be the reason. Have you spoken to him about how you feel? The idea you have about using your toys is
good because if you do this in front of him he might get turned on
I know I would.
2006-06-12 08:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by paulkress4640 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the toys out that would make me happy if I came home from work to that
2006-06-12 08:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by young one1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i finally had sex last night and this morning after a week without. Talk to him. Say that you are going to have to go elsewhere to meet your desires if he isn't going to do it himself. Tell him that if he doesn't have sex with you I will beat him up!!
2006-06-13 14:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by hotmama3712 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with the toys. Maybe him seeing you do that will get him excited.
2006-06-12 08:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by DigDug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is usually the other way around......marriage causes women to stop having sex with men, but wow, sorry to hear it.
2006-06-12 09:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone without it for 7 months, If you know where her is all the time and you know he hasn't been with anyone when he is not with you, it is just stress and him being tired.
2006-06-12 08:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just isn't in the mod. A do-it -yourself project is the answer.
2006-06-12 10:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋