My adult daughter moved back home while pregnant. The baby is now a little girl of 3. My daughter and I do not get along very well. She has a full time job, so I take care of my granddaughter for her. She will not help with bills or groceries. She will not clean her bedroom or her daughters bedroom (much less any other part of the house, including laundry). Her father (who had triple bypass surgery 3 yrs ago) works very hard to provide for us all. I have talked to her about this and she doesn't seem to think, since she works full time, she should help with the house. When I ask if she can help with food or bills, she is broke. Short of throwing her out, I don't know what to do. I can't tell her move, because of my beautiful little granddaughter. I know she would not let me see her again. I love my daughter so very much, but the stress is really getting to me. I don't know how to handle this... Please give me advise on what you think I should do...
2006-06-12 01:29:16 · 7 answers · asked by BlueAngel 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this is a very difficult situation for you to be in. if you feel she use emotional black mail with you and stop you seeing your grand daughter then that is very sad. just remind her when she gets paid to give you some money for her share of the upkeep of the house. she probably knows you wont kick her out but you have every right to ask her for help and for some contribution money wise.
good luck......
2006-06-12 01:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she get pregnant with her own choice right?she's on the right mind when she do it..and she came home to you and you accept her.Now she's working full time never share to anything even household chores she never help.For if I'm her mother i will talk to her seriously and will give her ultimatum if she will nit help nor share in the house I'm sorry but i think you should find a house for you to live,this house seems getting smaller to us...if she will do it let her but if she find it hard to cope everything when she moved out she will ask to go back to you.I'm sure that is the time you should lay your cards to her.Show your being Mother to her and be firm to your decision sometimes it needs to give a lesson to those who strayed on their way.
2006-06-12 08:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by effy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring Daddy into the works.
I would say look, your a fully grown adult which brings on responsibilities and you must help out if you plan to stay. I love you but you need to respect me and my home.
Did you know that if she is rude and says she will take her baby away and you wont be able to see it again you can go to court and get grandparents visitation rights.
2006-06-12 08:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her bluff! tell her if she can not act like a part of THIS family and do it with respect and appreciation, then she is simply going to have to make it on her own. you love her and her child but there are no free rides in this world. she may as well learn it now because she now has someone depending on her for direction. she MUST except her responsibility, like it or not. when she thinks that she has no other option she may reconsider and start responding like she knows that she should out of fear of being in this big bad world all alone.
2006-06-12 08:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by analylical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if se as a full time job, why is she broke? shes oiousl liyng.try telling her that you cant pay the bills and foood all by your self, how old is she?wheres the father of the kid? you can get mensual money from the dad and thats no excuse to dont have money.
2006-06-12 08:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by jose r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all else fails, move to a smaller place and tell her there will be no room so she needs to get her own place.
2006-06-12 08:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by whitebird002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to pitch in with chores or its time she gets her own place and she can keep it as dirty as she wants you should set up rules for her to stay she should appreciate all your help and not take you for granted
2006-06-12 08:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by jerry k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋