My husband's been promising a change for a while now. He tries to make me feel guilty when I'm upset over this. But now, I'm at a quiet tiredness. I love him very much, but I don't want to be there in the bed if he decides to come up...and now I'm thinking about just leaving for awhile. Taking our 3 boys, and stay in a hotel for awhile. This addiction, as he likes to call it, involved him seeing a young girl at work (20 something), he's 42. He did not sleep with her, but he did kiss her, once he said, but his thing never got hard for her. This went on for about a month, taking her out to lunch, but when she asked him to get a hotel, he broke it off with her. So I forgave him. But now, I am just tired of going to bed thinking he's coming up too later. And later doesn't come except in alternate days...there's no consistency. We have great sex. I'm very attractive, nice body...very erotic and "freaky" as he calls it. But it's not enough for him.
2006-06-12 00:45:12 · 15 answers · asked by dwj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like you should leave and let him think about what he wants. Tell him if he can get some help then you may take him back. But what he did makes him a pervert to me. He's 42 and kissed a 20 some year old. That is gross, if he where my Husband I would of left the day I found out.
2006-06-12 00:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by a girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are everything you say your are, then why would he want another woman? If I were him, I'd be so captivated by you that I doubt I'd ever leave the house. Something just isn't right here. Is there something you're not telling us that we could use to give you a better answer? Also, you say there is no consistency. Alternate days sounds pretty consistent to me. This whole picture just doesn't make any sense.
2006-06-12 07:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband has some mental baggage that he is trying to pawn off onto you. Don't let him. Leave him sittin' for a little bit. Make sure that he understands that you have options (guys looking) the same as he might have the little tramp. He needs a freaking reality check!!!
2006-06-12 08:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a little separation can bring people closer together.
Every time I find myself at odds with my "old lady" I find a way to give us a little time to be apart. We give each other a little 'space'.
Sometimes It doesn't work period so we 'battle royal' some more. But in the bye and bye we come back to each other period.
She enjoys the conflicts, it's her way of expressing her independence. Me I have too many conflicts every day of my life so I prefer as little conflict at home as possible. But I readily recognize and accept her need to express herself. Without a little strife in our relationship our coupling would be 'kinda' boring.
2006-06-12 08:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this not enough for him if i may ask? you need to be in bed and ready for him as you are his wife... Spice things up more and buy some toys and flavor have fun with it! If he is being unfaithful then get out! you both may need marriage counseling here as well!
2006-06-12 11:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he for real?? He ran after another woman and expects you to feel guilty for this? Hell I'd done left him a long time ago and you can make damn sure my kids would of went with me.
2006-06-12 07:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooops
2006-06-12 07:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by geekay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you want to be happy? Leave his sorry butt and live your own life. You deserve better. Your not his little play toy, pushed aside until needed are you?. Addiction my ***, his way of having his cake and eating it too.
2006-06-12 10:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by yooper guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the saying "wont's the cake and eating it too".A 20 something did get his thing hard you wasn't there she was.
2006-06-12 10:23:10 · answer #9 · answered by roster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both want the relationship to work, then you both need to see a counsellor. If not see one for yourself. Take care.
2006-06-12 08:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋