2006-06-12 00:36:20 · 18 answers · asked by jan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop making yourself feel bad. Do something nice for yourself everyday.
2006-06-12 04:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he forced you into things, you let him hurt you, right? If I were you, from now on I'd try all I could to get rid of your sick history with him by getting engaged in some kind of cool activity with new people where you could boost your self esteem. Anything to keep you busy would do. Throw away or ask a friend to keep for some time anything that reminds you of these horrible things you let him do to you. Don't ever call him again or let him approach you because it seems to me your pain does him good. Focus on you only. Try not to be permissive anymore. Neither to him nor to anyone else. Also don't blame yourself too much. This can happen to all of us. It's part of our learning process. Good luck.
2006-06-12 08:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by funtooabc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've was upset for longer than we went out. But now I'm okay, I don't think about him ever day. Now if I see him, all the anger rises up, but other than that I'm decent. Don't move on with anybody else until you're over him though. I tired it and it was horrible. But stop beating yourself up for still feeling hurt, it takes time ot get over some pains.
2006-06-12 07:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to forgive the wrongs he has done before you can really move on. I don't mean you have to throw him a birthday party, but to forgive him for the hurt he has committed to you and then you can have closure and move forward. It sounds hard but it honestly does help if you forgive the faults of others, in order to move on.
The hurt and anger will linger if you don't come to terms with the past. That in turn will make you a hurt and distrusting person, sour with the world and men, and eventually lead to bad health.
2006-06-12 07:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
First thing you need to do is to seek counseling and help to try and get past this and start to heal. You will need to learn to forgive with time as forgiveness is a big part of the healing process. This obviously is eating you up and will eventually destroy you if you choose to live like this. Has your ex asked you to forgive? Are they sorry for what they have done to you?
2006-06-12 11:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive your ex. When you do, then you will finally be able to put it all behind you and move on with your life which is what you're suppose to do instead of letting this control you and keeping you in the past.
2006-06-12 07:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to "forgive" him if you don't really want to.
Anyway a lot of times is absolutely just too difficult to "forgive" someone for the wrongs they have caused you.
But for the sake of your future as well of for the sake of your sanity - you do have to "FORGET" him.
Find someone that you can love that will take up all your spare "thinking" time and sooner or later you will not be dwelling on this jerk and he will be placed to the back of your mind where he belongs!
2006-06-12 07:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't or don't have to let go of your pain. Your knight in shining armour will come along one day soon and hurl your sorrows into the dungeon with for a firey dragon to feast upon.
2006-06-12 07:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by jewel_o_th_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot move on with hurt / anger that sort of thing will damage you. Instead learn to really forgive and you will see your life move on for the better, you may not see it now. But you will be better and stronger for it.
2006-06-12 07:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by tapperlorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he rape you or cheating behind you? If that bastard did the horrible things to you, you should plot a revenge by improving yourself in every aspects, personality, outlook, mentally & physically - in excellent status so that he will feel pain deep down beneath his heart. It works - trust me.
2006-06-12 07:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What types of things? If they were domestic abuse (hitting and punching) or sexual abuse (rape) then you should talk about it to a close family member or the cops. If they were emotional abuse, the best thing is to recognise it and get emotional and psychological support in the form of counselling
2006-06-12 07:42:20 · answer #11 · answered by Madza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋