A friend of my boyfriend did something rude to me. The next time I saw him, he said "I owe you an apology". That was that he never really apologized. Am I just nit picking?
2006-06-12 00:34:24 · 11 answers · asked by bookfreak2day 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No. You are just acknowledging that you owe that person an apology. Just simply say: "I apologize."
2006-06-12 01:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's my humble opinion, but I kind of think you are just nit picking--that was an apology. It might not been the eloquence you were hoping for, but it was in deed an apology.
Many people have a difficult time saying "I am sorry." They don't like being wrong, and they have been conditioned to believe that accepting fault is a weakness. They also don't want to accept all the blame for the disagreement because usually both parties are somewhat at fault. Even if they aren't, something made him lash out--internal conflict, you never know.
So I suggest you accept the apology and forgive. Don't let this friend's ego or yours get in the way. It's healthier not to live as enemies.
I may be lowering my IQ by quoting country music but I like what Big Kenny and John Rich have to say about fighting & forgiveness in their song "Wild West Show,"
"Only forgiveness will finally end this.. there is never a hero in the battle of ego, there is never a winner in the quick draw."
So yes, he passed the peace pipe. Not really graceful at it, but he did pass it. So let it go.
2006-06-15 02:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by adieu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone you owe them an apology and actually apologizing are 2 different things.
2006-06-12 00:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No is some cases yes but you have to say i owe you and apology
I'm sorry for blah blah blah and anything else you need to write
so some cases you can just say i owe you an apology
2006-06-12 00:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by PunkPrincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not exactly. You see, you say you owe them an apology, then they say something, and then you come in and say,"I`m really sorry. I didn`t mean to." Or something of the sort.
2006-06-12 01:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by cowgirl 917 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he never apologized he just said he owes you an apology
2006-06-12 02:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling you he owed you an apology and not immediately following it up with an actual "I'm sorry" is wrong.
2006-06-12 01:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon the gravity of your hurt, what exactly he did to annoy you so much and what are your expectations from him about tendering an apology (I mean style and content of it!). Another dimension of this is his standing with your B/F.
2006-06-12 00:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by nicefriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not nick picking...owing you one and not givng it to you isnt the same thing. if someonse says i owe you an apology...---ok ...so go ahead apoloogize... im waiting....
its the same as owing somebody a dollar and not giving it.....
2006-06-12 00:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jack Kerouac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That probably is his manly way of doing it. For next time though, you can say, okay, I'm ready to hear it...Or something like that to put the ball in his court.
2006-06-12 00:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋