Why is it that in a marriage everything is expected out of a wife and nothing from the husband?

Question

I stay with my inlwas and at my home - I am expected to go to office - work and contribute to hose expenses and along with that take care of all household work. My husband on the other hand is only expected to earn. We contribute equally to house expenses - spend equal amount of time in office but once home he is on the bed resting and i am working. One day if I want to rest it becomes a issue that I never contribute to anything at home. Dunno why it so...

I stay with my inlwas and at my home - I am expected to go to office - work and contribute to hose expenses and along with that take care of all household work. My husband on the other hand is only expected to earn. We contribute equally to house expenses - spend equal amount of time in office but once home he is on the bed resting and i am working. One day if I want to rest it becomes a issue that I never contribute to anything at home. Dunno why it so...

Answer 1

NOt true, both are responsible for making the marriage work.

Answer 2

I would like to think this is not true in a marriage, but in a way it is. I think this is because the woman is traditionally the caring nurturing one in the family. They cook, clean, and care for the kids. While the husbands traditionally bring in the money, pay the bills, make repairs to the household. I think now and days we expect marriage to be an equal partnership, were each spouse shares responsibilities, in all aspects of the marriage. If you find that this is not your marriage then you need to seat down and have a heart to heart with your husband and resolve these issues. That is all I can say (I'm only 18 and not married). I hoped I touched base with the answer.

Answer 3

wrong question!!!
remember we live in the 21st century
when a marriage is between 2 (two) persons
and both are equal in the partnership
both contribute to the relationship and household
wake up and smell the coffee
the current year is 2006

Answer 4

First of all this is not and never should be true. The husband has alot of responsibility here! He is to be the head of the home and of the wife and supprt his family financially and to love and cherish his wife and he is to be a great dad too! He also is supposed to love and cherish you treat you the way he wants to be treated! Sad part is today that selfish people get married and they dont want to do things the right way.

Answer 5

That's a lie. You may feel that everything is expected of the wife. But men are expected to be providers and carers for their wife/child/ren. If they are not then they need to learn to be. Women have to be really strong nowadays to cope with alot of things. People should stop expecting men to be disasters. Just because they can plant their seed and make babies does not mean they are men.

Answer 6

While this may be the case in many marriages this is not the norm.

Maybe its because men have usually have higher expectations of the woman they marry then the women do of the men they marry.

You will see many, many more women out there in our society married to total bums, drunks. and wife beaters than you see men married to women of the same caliber.

And it may have to do with the fact that many women have very low expectations of themselves with very low esteem.

Answer 7

I don't know what kind of marriage you're in but mine were never like that. In fact in mine I often felt just the opposite but I never complained or bashed women for it but accepted it as a responsibility and lead role.

Answer 8

this may be your case, but not everyones. it is because you let him get by with it in the first place, now he expects it. you both need a better balance, understanding and respect for what one-another do.

Answer 9

I expect alot out of my husband. What do you mean?

Answer 10

Because that wife hasn't learned to speak up yet.