I have only had one real relationship before, I'm a girl and they were a guy, and they turned out to be gay. I have moved, and my best friend here is a gay guy but I find myself attracted to him. I think I'm bisexual, but I live in an area and with a family where I'd rather just focus on guys. The only ones I can be attracted to are gay though. Anyone have any advice?
2006-06-11 23:46:42 · 15 answers · asked by eveofhyrule 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Did it ever occur to you that maybe you are attracted to gay men because you are afraid of real committment. Subconsciously you know there's no future, so you feel safer. Or you really want to be with a gay woman, but are so scared of ppl finding out you opt for the gay guy. So you appear more "normal". Either way, my advice to you would be to go online to a bi-sexual chat room, and explore with others how you really feel. With that done. You have two choices. You can either come out of the closet, and not worry about what family and friends think of you.....or move far away and start over in a more accepting community. I hope this helps.....Good Luck.
2006-06-12 00:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mare 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It kinda makes sense. Gay guys are said to be in touch with their emotions better than str8 guys, dress better, and be more polite. It can be a good thing for a girl to have a gay male friend. Just keep in mind that he doesnt want to get into your pants. Maybe thats a part of it for you. Wanting something that you know you cannot really have. You can be affectionate and like someone without ever getting sexual with them. Relationships like this are good for you to practice this. Remember: love is more important than sex. Maybe you could someday marry him so that he has a cover and a sympathetic person his real significant other can go through in medical and legal situations.
2006-06-11 23:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or, since you're bisexual, but can only focus on guys because of your family, maybe you look for "feminine" men. Like the others have said, there's no future at all with your friends, because he likes other men. So just move on, try dating girls or find a straight boyfriend.
Good luck!
2006-06-12 06:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound a lot like me before i got married. i was usually attracted to women or gay men, but then, that's what i was surrounded by. broaden your horizons and go out and meet some new ppl. you're chances of finding someone you'll be happy with are better if you know a wider range of different types of ppl.
maybe it'll work and maybe it won't, but i hope you find happiness. good luck!
2006-06-13 02:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by water_loves_fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. If he's bi, you might have a chance, but if he's gay, you'll never get him to switch teams. Just be his friend. If that's a problem for you, then just say goodbye.
2006-06-12 04:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by captlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl don't worry I'm attracted to a bisexual. its just a turn on i guess. just tell him how you feel it's not like it will hurt you. any way you can always have fantasizes
2006-06-12 00:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by CoCoBunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run girl Run. He might try to be straight because he loves you. But at the end of the day, he is going to wnat that boy
2006-06-12 02:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Vell g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get over him romantically or risk losing the friendship forever.
2006-06-12 01:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may THINK you're attracted to him, many gay men look for female friends, they bond more readily.
2006-06-12 00:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.Wise 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing you can do if he is gay.
2006-06-12 00:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by huhwhat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋