Me and my ex boyfriend split up bout 3 weeks ago but we are still friends and we still see each ova nearly everynite, da only problem is i still love him so much but he is movin on and mite have another girlfriend this week. wen we are together we have such a gd tym and a rite laff, i do txt him ldz as well, which i know i shudnt
i still wanna b wiv him should i not see him all da tym or wot?
plz help
2006-06-11 23:30:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its so hard when you are n this situation im in the same boat as you i know we should just stop seeing each other but i do miss him at the end of the day its only going to make things harder when it does come to the time to move on
2006-06-11 23:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by >darkangel< 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I think you need to think about how serious your relationship was. How long were you going out for?
It sounds like it perhaps cant have been TOO serious, considering you're still hanging out heaps, and he already may be seeing someone else.
I think you need to tell him how you feel. If he is under the impression that you are both just mates, he'll think everythings fine and that you're happy not being with him and okay about him going out with someone else.
But, you really need to know if he still wants to be together or if he wants more than that: if he thinks its all cool being mates, it may get really difficult for you watching him be with other girls. The best thing is to be honest. Even if means not hanging out with him for a while until you think you've moved on, the friendship sounds strong enough to endure that, and if he really is a true friend he wont want to lose the friendship BUT he'll also understand that you may need some time out to move on.
Good luck!!
:)
2006-06-12 06:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by scarletts_hot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a bit 2 soon 4 u 2 b friends the feelings r still 2 raw an strong u need to take a step back. delete his num frm ur phone(but keep it written somewhere!) an try ur best not 2 txt him more than a few times a wk. tell him ur sorry but u cant c him 4 a while,jus til ur emotions calm down im sure in a month or 2 ul b able to get ur friendship back on track,im still friends wi most of my x's an i recommend it makes things much simpler
2006-06-12 06:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by janey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, it's clearly over between the two of you. If you still want to be friends then put a little distance between you both and he'll soon realise how much he misses you.
Oh and do try not to abbreviate the written word. English is such a beautiful language.
2006-06-12 06:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Spook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree with the first answer. He is getting the best of both worlds.
He has split up with you (dont know whose terms or why) and you cant just lock off your feelings for him, yet he is keeping you close by for 'future reference'. God knows whats going on through his mind.....maybe he wants to explore and come back to you or really for him this is just it.....but it doesnt sound like the lata.....
I suggest you keep away. No more calls, texts, meeting up etc. Lock the contact off completely. How else can you get on with your life and get over him. He already is going to date another girl. What on earth does that say about him.....and you for sticking around in the hope off! Stop it. Lock it off! You cant stay friends at all.......no way.......what do you want to hear? His currents girlfriends name and statistics? You dont want to know or hear it at all.
You probably dont like the sound of me saying get over him....but ultimately that is what you gotta do.
Unless you do what ive always done (which is the wrong thing to do, but i hope ive lived and most importantly learned) which is .................to hang around, waste your time and energy, lots of emotions, your sanity and be a dumb girl who lets a guy get the better of her and ultimately walk all over her, go round in circles of dating on and off and then finally (after months or even years) cut it off and end the cycle!!!!!!!!!! Phew! (Taking a breath)
Do what you want to do....take my word for it though, been there, done that, not good!
Take this as a blessing in disguise and i truly believe that everything happens for a jolly good reason. Soon enough you will realise what that reason is. I mean honestly, could you really see yourself with this bloke, 5, 10 years down the line? Live your life, get to know yourself and what you really want in life.
2006-06-12 07:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u all decided to split up there must be a problem with ur relationship..try finding that problem and solve it..did u say he might have a gf this week??since he's already moving on i guess u shouldn't wait for him any longer..go on with ur life...he must have not been ur special one..maybe this is a way God is trying to show u that there will be some other special someone coming ur way..but it's just not him..anyways,i wish u all the best of luck...hopefully u'll find ur way soon...
2006-06-12 06:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by su_quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called "having your cake and eating it", as in, he has you on hand for whatever he wants and then he has his freedom as well, he is using you chick, move on, that is easier said than done when there are feelings involved but you will get over him given time. If the relationship is finished then you will find someone else as well, this is an exciting time for you, look to the future.
2006-06-15 04:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are just cheating each other that you have broken up, if you can still see each other every night, then why did you break up since you still need each other's company. I am sure even him to have time to be seeing you often, he still loves you. So stop playing games and seriously get back together or you stop seeing each other completely. Or else you will soon tell us that you make love each time you meet but you have broken up, which doesn't make sense at all. please both grow up both of you lovers.
2006-06-12 06:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You SHOULD see him if you want to both be friends... But remember that there was a reason you split up... Sounds like it is time for you to move on... Or sleep with him again... ;)
2006-06-12 06:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, U shd not see him anymore as he has already made up his mind to move on. Now as more u see him it will be difficult for you to get out of this relationship.
2006-06-12 06:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by tuktuk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋