I am 28 years old,male and still virgin.Would like to get married but I can't find one who is real and genuine

Question

Hi.I am 28,male and still virgin.I have decided to wait until I get married and I think that now it is time; but I have found that it's difficult to find someone who is really serious about relationship and I don't want to start something which will break up in a short time.Please can you tell me what I should do?

Answer 1

TAKE COURAGE ! THERE IS HOPE.

Try to be yourself in front of girls and don't be afraid of them. They won't bite you. Don't be like "OOh, what am I gonna do?" kind of thing when you are talking to them. Build your confidence by going to the gym, learn some skills, wear presentable clothes, improve your communication skills then I'm sure along the way, you will find yourself having a hard time choosing the best girlfriend.


Try this as well:

1. Start with your interests/sports. Hang out with your friends in those places (say, bowling alleys, swimming pools, etc.)
2. Carry yourself modestly. Don't overdo it.
3. A well behaved men sometimes attract women (i think).
4. Attend parties for singles.
5. Ask for referrals.
6. don't go to the bars (it's risky).
7. If you are good to one girl, this will be passed around in a jiffy. And you will meet more girls...for you to choose from.

ALL THE BEST.

Answer 2

Life is passing you by. How important will sex be to the relationship? Are you wanting to get married now just for the sex? What if you have saved yourself, and then find out that the person you finally marry, is really bad in bed?

Just do it with a good friend, or if none, a good hooker. At your age you should have loads of money, to get good quality! Saving yourself is over-rated, and wastes time, that could be spent sampling life's pleasures.

Answer 3

Wow, know thats something that you dont hear everyday.
Fair play to you for waiting like that, But all i have to say is although you feel that is time like right aat this moment it is going to take time to beable to find someone as true to you as you may be to them, You dont want to jump into anything and then it end in weeks to come like you said, so all you can do is wait.
Either that or you could join a dating agency or a date line on the net and see if you have any luck doing it through that way.
GOOD LUCK and i hope you find someone as genuine as you seem to be. x x

Answer 4

WOW!! you don't hear that often. I think that it's great you decided to wait until marriage (very few people hold out anymore) and I really hope you find the perfect person. To bad we live in such a corrupted world where you can't trust anybody. So my best advice to you is ask the Lord to guide you, because you know he will not steer you wrong. As long as you put your faith and trust in him, you having nothing to worry about. Hang!! in there buddy and be patient, your true love is waiting for you as well.
Be Blessed!!

Answer 5

There are no guarantees in life. One must take a chance and be able to take that chance with open eyes and heart. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, I say BRAVO, my friend. If you are looking to get married, try to be friends with a woman first, and get to see her in her natural environment. Figure out what you would like in a woman, is it beauty, brains, intelligence, a sense of humor or compassion? I am sure you have found yourself attracted to someone who had some of these qualities -- now the next step is just to get to know them and be comfortable around them and take your time. It will be worth it. And to add pressure on yourself as to say "what if it doesn't last?" Honey, human beings aren't BUILT to last. We are born, we age, we die. Life is short and precious. Don't you want to spend time getting to know a fellow human being beyond what their favorite color or movie is?

And to the one who posted "what if you marry someone who is bad in bed" -- HOW can a virgin COMPARE if they don't have ANY EXPERIENCE to COMPARE it to?? Use your brain, dingleberry. Not you, original poster.

Answer 6

You have to lower your standards a little, or be prepared to wait a long time, maybe forever. In today´s world virgins in their twenties are just about non-existent. You say that you think now is the time. Do you have a girlfriend? Or somebody in mind? If you expect your future spouse to be a virgin too, you'll have to start hanging around convents.

Answer 7

I don't know what your religious background or preference is but you sure must look near the institution where more people like you are found. It may be your community center, church, temple, mosque. But you must start to find and make more female friends. Try not to miss any opportunity where you have a chance to meet one. Try not to overdo anything though. Stay cool, you will find her. Believe me.

Answer 8

well as you have been probably been told about a thousand times there is someone out there for everyone you feel this is the time you want to get married well maybe this is a sign tht maybe you just aint ready for it yet wait until you find someone and have been with her a while before decidign you want to get married and i think its really good that ytou have choose to save your virginity till you get married i respect you

Answer 9

baby...its nt that u r 28 or 29..nt married..log kya kahenge..its all in urself.u will get ur perfect match when u have to.just wait and hope rthe best.everybdy has everything good in there life by god..so wait r the answer of god..may be this is nt time r y.dont worry dont think u will get right person.cheers

Answer 10

Ask older women in your church to help you identify a fellow virgin for marriage, becuase if you pick on any other girl, they will just find you boring since you are not experienced. It also happened to me since I kept my virginity up to 25 years and men used to leave quitely without telling me a good reason, until my friend told me that I was boring even in bed since I did know what was expected of me. so my dear get the experience and you will find the love of your life.