if your husband did not buy you a present for your first wedding anniversary (although he took you to a restaurant) and when you asked him if he ever wants children with you and he answerd "I dont know?!!". What would your conclusion be?
2006-06-11 22:19:58 · 16 answers · asked by INC0GNIT0 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yikes! Be careful of this one. I was married 2 years and went through the same thing. Depending upon how much your man wants to be with you I'd say find out now what he will want before you invest anymore time. Men don't often change their mind about a woman once they've made it up. All in all follow your heart. No woman should be deprived of the chance to have a child if she really wants one. Any man is selfish if he feels otherwise and should let his woman go willingly.
2006-06-12 04:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It has only been a year since you guys got married. Give him timeo n the kids thing. You both need to have time to enjoy being mewlyweds. On the him not giving you a present for your anniversary, I would say be glad he even remembered the date in the first place. Not all men can remember that kind of thing.
Did you guys have the kids talk before you got married, if not that is something that you should have talked about. BUt it is not lost even though you are married. Give him some time and then sit down with him and talk it out with each other. OPen communication is key. Take in what he says and do not get upset if he says something that is not what you are wanting to hear.
2006-06-12 12:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Shea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, the present thing..well..sometimes guys just forget or don't know they should get a present. So, I would forgive him that..but gently remind him that IF there is a next year..he should consider getting you a gift on this important day.
I am wondering..had you discussed having children before you married? It sounds like he was a bit surprised by your question, and taken aback. Perhaps you should bring it up another time..when you both are relaxed. Have a heart to heart discussion about it. Children are a real joy..but they come with a lot of work and no directions.
Hope this helps.
2006-06-12 05:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Do you really have such a shallow relationship that you'd divorce him over not getting you a token for your anniversary? Why'd you marry the guy in the first place if you're going to just be materialistic? Love is not about gifts. It's about how he treats you on the ordinary days. Get over yourself!
2006-06-12 05:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before we answer this question you need to ask him if he wants to have children and leave it at that. If he does, but not with you, kick him to the curb. There are ways of asking questions without making one feel uncomfortable. As for an anniversary gift...be happy with the dinner. He rememered and that is what counts.
2006-06-14 11:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by gailandnormhare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband might be a bit insensitive, but the things you described don't merit a divorce. Although I can understand if you were simply a little angry with him. Thats natural -- people make mistakes and you're husbands no different.
2006-06-12 05:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thought taking you to dinner was the present. Maybe he's not yet sure if he wants children, since you've only been married a year. Didn't you discuss having children previous to getting married?
2006-06-12 06:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooooooooooooo. Marriage is not a play of Dolls. Try to understand ur husband. I think so Ur husband have very tensed in job & other family responsibilities. Take it easy & Neglect it. All the very best for ur HAPPY MARRIED LIFE.
2006-06-12 05:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by crownsamir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay calm and do not jump into conclusion! i agree with you that it was not the normal behaviour expected from your spouse, but at the same time it is too early to plunge into divorce.
when everything is calm and when u find him in a receptive mood of communication ask him why did he behave so. and mind you, let the question not be put in a sarcastic way or to blame him but it should be a way of sharing your thoughts. i think it should work out.
but please, it is too early to plunge into divorce.
2006-06-12 05:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not divorce over this ... At least he took you our to eat and let him think about the kids thing. Give him time and love him where he is at and enjoy each other withough kids right now!
2006-06-12 10:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋