The past friend and I have a
2006-06-11 22:17:07 · 16 answers · asked by newmomma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think your husband will be the best in the field.....the more freedom he given to you......the more loyal you should shown himm......hence my answer is not to contact the old beggy freind.....just forget and live happy with your husband'
2006-06-11 22:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by sri_pondy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no harm in reconnecting with your past friend if you would not go far such as that of having an illicit affair with him. I'm sure that your husband will appreciate your telling him that you and your ex met again. This way, his trust in you could have been greater.
If you are worried that you still have feelings for your ex, you should really be. That might lead to something else which you may regret at the end if you don't do something about it. If your love for your husband is greater than what you feel for your ex, however, don't be afraid because your great love for him will show you what to do properly and gracefully without you destroying both his trust in you and your family.
With your telling him the truth, his being uncomfortable and threatened are just signs that he really loves you and that he is afraid that your ex may take you away from him. That is normal for those who truly love. Don't mind him if ever he shows you feats of jealousy or distrust. Understand him the more.
Try to avoid communicating again with your ex so that you will not be trapped by your feelings for him. That is a sure way to avoid temptation after all.
2006-06-11 22:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married three years. He's met all the "men of my past" who still think they need to be in my life. The only one who I think I may have an issue with as far as cheating...I would never get together with him without my husband present. Come to think of it, I haven't heard from him in a while. He used to call every so often to make sure I was still married. He must've given up on me....lol.
If you want to get together with the guy, include your husband. It will reinforce the point that you are married now. Both to you, and your ex.
2006-06-11 22:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question doesn't inspire much on your marriage. You are almost indicating that your motives to re-establish communication has other motives....I think you are setting yourself up for stress and worst, self inflicted.
Your husband has every right to feel threatened by your thoughts of doing this. For the most part, he is right and what you are doing is wrong.
You had a 'past' with this other fellow. Respect yourself and your marriage enough to not endeavour further into this. The past should be left in the past and you should be placing other priorities ahead of this.
2006-06-11 22:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want to True Love from Ur Husband, I advice u that Keep Away always ur past & future Boy friends. All the Best for Ur Best Family Life.
2006-06-11 22:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by crownsamir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me, a few years back. I had unresolved issues with an ex. My husband felt the same way yours does, and I went ahead with it.
Needless to say, I am now divorced and living with my past love, and we are engaged. I am much happier now than I was in my previous marriage. We had alot of problems anyway.
All I can say, from experience, is be careful. If you think your marriage could be damaged, or your hubby could be hurt by any of your actions, if you are not willing to risk divorce, keep everything plutonic, and stay at a distance. Temptation is hard to avoid.
If this could hurt your husband, and his trust in you, even if you are not even thinking of doing anything wrong, be extra careful. Trust, when lost, is hard hard hard to re-build. Even if you never venture down the road to cause him harm, it could still hurt him.
If you love your hubby, and want to keep your life with him, think VERY carefully about his feelings.
2006-06-11 22:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you may stray out with your old friend or for that
matter anybody else.
But you are an "OPPURTUNIST".
( So there are women who not only stray but also those
who have such desires)
Shame on such women who claim that men on earth
are freaks.
2006-06-11 22:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by kanuuscbe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband, then don't have anything to do with this guy. You took a vow to love and honor him.
Dump the ex-boyfriend.
2006-06-11 22:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by hollyltstarfleet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, it will change everything.
Do you want your husband to have such bad
feelings? Another woman will help him feel better.
Do you want that?
2006-06-11 22:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hook up with ex on the downlow and ride his big hard one till you get bored with him, again...
2006-06-11 22:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋