Have been for 7 years with my boyfriend and quiet happy , now I met another man I am interested in, he asks me out 3 times already, but I declined, shell I risk it ? I am thinking of how it would be to date him perhaps just for a day . I know I wouldnt leave my boyfriend but I have the burning desire to find out what could be with the other man is that normal ?
2006-06-11 22:13:45 · 30 answers · asked by belladonna_in_town 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetheart, love is a sacrifice. It doesn't come for free. If you think it cost you nothing keeping one for 7 years, then kick it off and move on with the new pem. "You may never know the value of what u have until u lose it". By the way who told u ,once u fall in love you'll never get a heart-beat for another. U're ability to overcome all such crushes and stay for what u've spent time to build is what i consider a sacrifice for love. Take care. No one-night stands!!
2006-06-11 23:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by BK K 1 · 14⤊ 1⤋
Well, in 7 years your bf has not asked to make this into a long term relationship / marriage or even an engagement? I think personally it would be time for you to think about moving on, maybe your body is also telling you this.
You wont have to think about leaving him however, the fact that you are thinking of having an illicit relationship means you have already thought about it ( perhaps for a day) in your own words, this means you are considering a day and maybe more and are already testing the waters.
Last but not least, if your bf finds out about the affair, he will leave you anyway, if he is the really macho kind he will probably find the other guy and beat him to a pulp...and or more...
2006-06-11 22:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aesop's Fable: The Dog And The Bone is a fable ascribed to Aesop.
According to the story, a dog was carrying a bone over a bridge. Looking down into the water, the dog saw its own reflection, which looked to him like another dog carrying another bone. Wanting the other dog's bone as well as his own, the dog opened his mouth to bark at the "other" dog it saw... but in doing so, the dog dropped his own bone into the river, where it was gone for good.
The sad, hungry dog learned the hard lesson that, by being greedy, one risks what one already has.
2006-06-11 22:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Munster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity Killed the cat stick with your long term boyfriend and you`ll be happy the other man could end up being a flop besides, once you break the trust between you and your boyfriend it will never be the same no matter how much you try.
Good luck in your struggle.
2006-06-11 22:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships will have moments when your desire may linger to another-even for a little bit. The difference is do you respect yourself and your partner enough not to do this silly move? Even if it's only for one day and you think no wrong can come from it, you are cheating and being untrue to your man. It really isn't fair and you would not appreciate it if he chose to do something similar.
It's normal to be attracted to other people. The one's who stay in love are those who don't distract themselves with just lust and continue to work on what they have.
2006-06-11 22:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u share a 7 year relationship so i assume there must be a great amt. of trust & understanding b/w u n ur bf.
what i would propose is introduce this new guy 2 ur bf as a friend and take him out with u n ur bf , that way u can get 2 know him without cheating on ur boyfriend
2006-06-12 00:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Liberal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in why would you want to risk your lovley relationship for some guy who you may not even end up been with? just imagine how many people you could hert by cheating you will have guilt hanging over your head for the rest of your life and this will ruin your relationship.
2006-06-11 22:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you aren't married..I recommend you consider dating this fellow. It seems as if you are quite interested..and should have the opportunity to "shop around" before you settle down with anyone. It's hard to end relationships that have been going on for quite a while..but consider if you don't explore your feelings..you will always wonder what it would have been like.
2006-06-11 22:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its but natural to b attracted to anyone even if u r in a serious relation with another man.
yes its not bad to give him a chance as long as u r not cheating ur partner..........
if after sum time u feels that this new one is the "one" u r looking forward then i suggest that u shouldn't try to make fool of anyone tell both man the truh that now u r not interested in him n just get along wih the new guy...............
2006-06-11 22:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by REN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh pls dun meet the other guy. Cuz its being unfair to your boyfriend seriously. I've been through it and i know. Juz imagine that yr bf do that to u, wat do u think his actions are telling you? Whenever u decide to do something, think about it as you're in his shoes. How will u feel? Do u really wanna break yr bf heart? U shouldnt even have this thought in the 1st place. I really feel sorry for your bf and i hope u will not fall to temptation. God bless your relationship. =)
2006-06-11 22:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋