I was in love with a friend of mine and she knew it but i moved on and she moved on. im married now and she is divorced, and i really wana talk to her again i cant get her out of my mind its been this way for 9 years, i know where she lives and works i just dont know what to do?????
2006-06-11 21:49:04 · 15 answers · asked by wayneco_n_wv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did your friend who is now divorced even once told you that she loved you also romantically? If she did, you have to make a very important decision in your life. You have to choose between this woman and your wife. Ask yourself who will make you complete and contented. Who between them will give you peaceful family life? Who do you really deserve? You have to ask yourself many questions before you can make your first move.
What is important is if you believe that you will be happier with her than with your wife, and that you love her so much more than you love your wife, be fair to yourself and your wife. Tell her the truth about it but you have to make certain first that your divorced friend will accept you should you divorce your wife. Otherwise, you might end up with nobody.
2006-06-11 22:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all why u married the women ? and what about Ur wife is she good or not?Is she love u or not?think about her.she may be loves u more than u love the first girl.how can u will be shore if u divorce her, she will be come good person(she will be lonely person).secondly the first girl ,we can see she loves u b/c she divorce her husband may be she think like u, she feel like u what u feel now.i tell u both of the women are loves u.u can solve this to talk to them.talk to first Ur wife.discuss this both of the women then u got the good answer.i cannot tell u divorce Ur wife without discussion. married is a big thing it show that how much u are true person i god and people.so think v.much,discuss to ur wife and lover.
"Vision with out discussion it is television".
good luck
2006-06-12 05:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Balma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to take stock of your marriage and ask yourself if you really love your wife. The person you are married to now deserves all of your love and attention. It's one thing for a man to have a "wandering eye", perhaps sneaking a peek at a passing pretty woman; but you sound like your heart is wandering away from your marriage. Think of all that you have vested in this relationship, is it worth it to leave someone who loves you and cares about you in the hopes of trying to kindle a flame with a woman who, judging by the way you wrote your question, never loved you to begin with? Do you have children? How will they react? Your wife deserves your honesty, love, and devotion. Most of all, be honest with yourself. Are you ready to throw your marriage away for a woman who does not display any love for you? And are you ready to devastate the woman who already loves you?
2006-06-12 10:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. How I handled it was, I became friends again with the other person. Only friends, that's important. Because physical attraction can fade as you really get to know a person. Just keep in mind you married your wife for her beauty and love. Don't be to hasty to jeopardize that. After getting to know him I realized that my husband truly was the right choice for me. Don't let physical attraction do you in!
2006-06-12 05:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jade Ariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get married in the first place when you don't seem to like your wife?...Well you only have 2 options :
1.Forget her and love your wife.
2. Divorce your wife and go get her.
2006-06-12 04:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shining StaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married your wife you made a promise to her and God. People always think things are greener on the other side, just for get about this other women. Don't be stupid and don't break your wife's heart and what ever you do,DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE! Don't be stupid!
2006-06-12 05:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love with this other person, then take a chance and go for it. Don't spend your life wondering. You're obviously not happy with your wife or you wouldn't still be thinking about this other woman.
2006-06-12 06:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why exactly do you THINK you have a choice?
You ARE married...other women are not an option,so stuff your tongue back in your face..and try to act like a man.
2006-06-12 05:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sex therapist, cause you two apparently don't have the current ability to satisfy each others needs.
2006-06-12 04:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by holdonto_mr_brightside 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor wife
i really feel sorry for your wife...
forget her don't destroy your wife's life
remember.. you both moved on the first time .. what makes you think that she might still love you or that she might come back to you
2006-06-12 05:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by mmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋