ok me and my cousin are best friends and have been our whole 20 years. we are getting an apartment together in a couple months and i am excited to be with her all the time..has anyone moved in with a close friend before?? does ur relationship change at all?? is it more likely u get closer to them or do u get annoyed or what? does it depend? just curious if anyone has been in this situation..did it change ur relationship in anyway good or bad?
2006-06-11 20:35:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if marrying your best friend counts then yes I have done this...... and no matter who you move in with, you and the other person will change..... getting a place of your own is a challenge and demanding.... you either make it or you don't...... and there is compromise from both parties....... getting used to each others habits....... likes and dislikes...... living with anyone takes compassion, forgiveness, and lots of humor...... one suggestion tho........ sit down with your cousin and do the *what if* game...... ya know, make up situations and ask each other how you would each react........ like bringing some one home ? or a pet ? or if you ate each others last twinkie ? then I would also make a few ground rules and set boundaries as to what can and can NOT go on in the apartment...... take my word for it, you will run into situations that will anger one or both of you....... to avoid hurt feelings and arguments I suggest strongly a sit down and talk about everything you can think of day........ God bless
2006-06-11 20:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well cant say for sure, never moved in with a best friend, but I would say if you have been in her room at her place before and there are things you don't like about the way she lives, be aware they are all going to be things you are going to have to live with. Also, if she has bad habits that sometimes annoy you, now they are going to be something you see all the time.
On the other hand it might be you who has all of the above and it drives her nuts...and she regrets the move....you never know.
As with any relationship when you are put in close proximity one has to give and take, if you can both do this there should be no problems.
2006-06-12 03:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the same gender, there should not be any problem. However, you should do some preliminary planning to set up some rules and expectations first. You may want to talk about who does chores and when, what time is "lights out and doors locked", where will entertainment be and what are your expectations of each other in the presence of visitors? Basically, each of you will need to know your personal boundaries in the apartment and respect them in order for it to be a positive experience since you lived separately in the past.
2006-06-12 03:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From living on a college campus - almost any time best friends move in it falls apart and they never speak to each other ever again. I did not move in with my best friend but I was surrounded by girls who did. Nasty cat fights sometimes.
But this is because they don't establish rules and talk about basic expectations - clothes, dirty dishes, pets, boys, phone calls, mail, rent, etc.
Discuss and cover everything basic and come up with a system of guidelines/rules and you should be OK. Never assume anything about the other person.
2006-06-12 03:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by kitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my best friend, and it has done nothing but made us closer. Now don't take me wrong, we fight :p so be prepared but it's always great to know that they love you no matter what you do or how you do it...and because you have a solid friendship....the fights are just a way for you to get to know each other better...on a different level....
Most of all just have fun and enjoy it! You two know each other well, you are going to find out things you never knew! But that's the fun it it right? :P haha
Good Luck!
2006-06-12 03:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet you pratically live with each other anyway and if you are best friends you have overcome all thoes obstacles if you are still best friends. you can do overkill being with someone but that is when you go somewhere for a weekend or just spend some time alone in the bath or at the coffee shop.
2006-06-12 03:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The general rule of thumb is never live with your friend because you'll end up loosing them. However, if you are both not possessive of each others personal life then you might be able to over come this obstacle. I lost one friend and I kept another.
2006-06-12 03:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've moved in with family and friends before and it really depends on your capacity to share living quarters. If you share a way of thinking, then you won't have too much problems.
Final verdict: Good to move in together.
2006-06-12 03:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youll have your ups and downs.. even though you guys are related and are best friends, you guys arent used to each others life styles... itll be fun though... just be ready for those hectic moments.... good luck!
2006-06-12 03:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by mony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living with afriend can mess up your friendship
2006-06-12 03:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by smooches986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋