how do you know youre gay?

Question

how does a guy know that hes gay? ive been fantasizing about my best friend lately, but ive been straight my entire life, ive never ever been into guys at all. is it weird that im constantly thinking about my friends muscles, lips, eyes, and watever. is it possible to just have a little man crush but still be straight? is it even normal to turn gay when youre 18?

someone please help me, im so confused!

i dont normally jerk off, but when i do, i think of girls, but sometimes i get little flashes of my friend, and it just really confuses me. i dont know if i want to just grab his muscles and kiss his lips, or maybe i just admire his good looks.

Answer 1

you can be any age and end up gay...i am 25 and may be bi...i m just finding this out to so i understand what you mean...just b true to urself thats all that matters

Answer 2

It is normal to have a crush on a guy that you share a lot of time with and have a close bond with . It doesn't mean you are gay . Have you had sexual experiences with women ? If so then you could just be experiencing a little transference of feelings due to a close male bond . But sometimes you can feel that you are straight and have perfectly normal relations with women until you reach sexual maturity and then realize you are gay . It doesn't always show its self from birth , I didn't know until I was 19 and had sex with my best friend . You also may be bisexual , If you still have feelings and have sex with women your body may be telling you that you can have the best of both worlds . There is usually a preference that leans toward one or the other . You may need to explore these feelings to figure it out for sure . Best of luck and Rest assured that what ever you decide you will be ok and are normal .

Answer 3

no one turns gay -- however, it is not uncommon to surpress feelings for several years in an attempt to satisfy the expectations or perceived expectations of friends and family, or of particular religious groups if you have been brought up religiously.

So, it is possible you are mildly bisexual; but it is also possible that you have surpressed your own sexuality since puberty. I would deliberately and directly release my inner self to think/be what it wants. I would do that through affirmation; and after doing it every day for a couple of weeks in the morning, I would relax and have a j*rk off session, allowing my mind to think about anything it wants to, and not trying to turn it in any direction at all, and not being anxious -- you are what you are. If your friend and maybe other guys pop up in the fantasy you have while you j*erk off -- then you are probably gay. If its strictly women -- then you are probably straight -- if it is both, then you are probably bi.

It is important if you do that exercise however, that if you feel yourself or "hear" yourself inside thinking things like "can't think about that" or 'mustn't be gay" -- even a little. You stop, finish masturbating, but assume it means nothing, then do the affirmation another two weeks and try again. You want an honest, uncontrolled response -- only that can tell you anything, and if you are still going "whew, don't want to be gay" -- then it isn't an honest response.

Good luck.

Reyn
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Answer 4

A lot of people have already said it, but I'll put in my two cents. You cannot "turn" gay, but yes, it is normal for people to realize feelings in their teenage years. As for the fact that you haven't noticed any attraction to men before now, it could be that you are bi, but have little interest in men and/or your friend is just the type of guy you would like. Also, the fact that you spend a lot of time with your best friend and probably have a lot in common might lead to deeper feelings. "How does a guy know he's gay?" That depends on the guy. The way I would suggest is asking yourself: Can you see yourself having a romantic relationship with a man? Can you see yourself having a sexual relationship with a man?

Beyond that, having attraction for a friend is difficult know matter what (been there). The most important thing, no matter what happens, keep the friendship, it is important.

Answer 5

Hey, I think this is quite a normal thing to do. It shows you are really into "sex" and are not narrow minded. I think it is the most wonderful thing not to be prejudiced. You are more than likely straight, but I think you would not be put off by the idea of gay sex whether or not you actually do it. To be gay I think is a choice you make to only go for same sex relationships. If you are happy with being a hetreosexual you have nothing to worry about. Stop worrying and enjoy the feeling. I hope this helps!

Answer 6

Almost all humans are raised from childhood in a completely straight world. Personally, because of my upbringing, I wouldn't even consider the possibility I was gay until after age 21.

The signs were there. People often accused me of being gay, yet I was not engaging in homosexual behavior at all. I had girlfriends, dated, made out, and sometimes even had sex with them. I had to... not just to proove to others I was straight, but to proove to myself.

When a person is taught their entire life that there are only straight people and perverts, well... nobody wants to be a pervert, so I must be straight.

Turns out I was wrong. I always knew I was attracted to boys, but denied it... because if I even admitted it, it would reinforce it.

There is a possibility that you are not gay. It is entirely possible to notice and appreciate your friends phisical attributes without having sex with him. It is possible to see and admire beauty without wanting sex. When I was young I thought Lynda Carter was the most beautiful woman in the world. I had posters, wrote fan mail, loved her to death. Still do. Not once in my entire life did I ever think about having sex with her.

I think that is the answer to your question. Being gay is about romantic/sexual desire, not about admiring attractiveness. If you find yourself thinking about your friend sexually, then you may be gay. If you are just noticing attractive things about him, I wouldn't worry. Straight men notice when other men are attractive. They just don't talk about it.

Answer 7

Sounds like you might be Bi-Sexual!
No one 'turns gay' its just that the feelings, or the self realization may not happen till your late teen - and it isnt the end of the world. You will find that many people are very accepting and its actually a lot of fun. visit some sites that I list below to help you on your quest - and most importantly - If you want guys, and you find yourself less, and less attracted to girls then you probly are gay.
Good Luck

Answer 8

I knew I was gay because I was sexually attracted to other guys. It is not weird to be attracted to a gusy muscles, etc. Try not the think of gay, straight, or bisexual as mutually exclusive categories. Rather think of sexuality as a continum with those labels used to help measure where someone's sexuality approximatly falls in that spectrum. There are gay men that are attracted to certain women but still consider themselves gay. It is also increasingly normal for one to label oneself as bisexual or gay at a younger age as society in general becomes for tolerant. There are some people 13 and younger that indentify themselves as gay or bisexual.

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Answer 9

Probably it is nothing. Mostly you are projecting a female entity on your friend, that is you are unconsciously thinking of your best friend as a female. Do not do any thing stupid you will either ruin your friendship or you will ruin your reputation and self esteem. Stop thinking about it and divert your thoughts on the first lady you meet today :P Good luck

Answer 10

dude there isn't a single so called normal person in here so just live your life as long as your not hurting anyone or being hurt ,just enjoy the feelings your having. life is short, i know thats hard to understand at 18 years old but you will have fun and have plenty of time to make mistakes ,,be well

Answer 11

A GUY will know that he is gay when he is attracted and wanting to have sex with another man.

Anyone can turn gay at any age, especially at the moment of engaging in homosexual activities.