2006-06-11 19:53:17 · 25 answers · asked by samy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thanks for your answers guys: Here is the thing: we are having the most amazing sexual life we both ever had, I am very attractive and unhibited and have been talking about it, trying to give confidence and proposed to watch it together, as well as have asked him about his fantasies and that I would do anything to please him, as long as it is with me.
What's bothering me, is that he still is not honest about it.. which would make me feel so much better.. and doesn't want or feels capable to share it... and with the lack of honesty the seed of mistrust is coming in our relationship.... and, I am afraid will kill all the good things we do have together.
2006-06-12 06:34:32 · update #1
Dont let it bother you hun. you would be amazed @ how many men watch porn. one of my girlfriends didnt like it and said that it made her feel like she wasnt good enough or pretty enough if i had to watch that. i beleive allot of females feel that way but its not like that at all. let him watch it, he is just going to get sexualy frustrated and take it out on you any ways.
2006-06-11 20:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by kidmccloud 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that...
Perhaps he is a little shy about saying that he'd like you to act more like the porn stars...
Maybe you should take to initiative and give him something a little more special from time-to-time...
Some men are incapable of saying "sweetheart, I want you to do ALL that and more"...
Porn is a fantasy world... And most marriages/relationships don't meet that fantasy... Perhaps it is time for a little change to that...
Is there a particular style of porn he likes??? Schoolgirl on the bus driver??? 3somes??? Anal??? Some other guy enjoying a woman - and he just likes to watch??? Voyeurism??? Find out and use it, then you might find that he no longer needs the porn...
BE MORE ADVENTUROUS!!! BE MORE DARING!!! LOSE THE INHIBITIONS!!! TRY EVERYTHING ONCE!!! If you don't like it, then you know from experience rather than anything else...
2006-06-11 20:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a moral problem with porn, plenty of mature people enjoy it as harmless fun.
however it is exceptionally naive to say it is not harmful to the human mind when it becomes an addiction it can be incredibly harmful to your relationship. I am speaking as a woman who had an ex partner who watched an awful lot of violent porn and lost a job over it.
. If a man is contstantly looking at images of woman being objectified...and re engforcing this image by giving himself pleasure...then there is a good chance that his emotional responses towards you might change.
he may become detatched, cold and unemotional during sex...or may ask you to do things which you do not enjoy. he may even want you to change your appearance or become violent or abusive if he seeks to enact the stuff he sees in some kinds of porn. If he is hiding his actions then you have cause for alarm.
My case is a very extreme one, I'm merely outlining that porn is not harmless when the wrong kind of person has an addiction and spends a lot of time looking at images where women are treated as objects and abused.
I must also say that it frankly alarms me that people are learning about sex from porn. Porn is not real, it is edited..re shot and produced. In reality women have feelings and needs. they are not simply props or vacant objects without expectations. the best way to learn about sexual technique is to read about it and discuss it with your partner. experiment with what they enjoy and talk to them about it.
take care
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2006-06-11 20:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called addiction. Please dont worry, but i am afraid you might have to take some tough steps. Maybe cut the internet connection, act angry and stop him from watching porn for atleast a week. Now ask him how he feels then. Maybe not have sex with him for a week or two. You see, at times he might be watching porn just to learn new tricks of the trade.
2006-06-11 19:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by RK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porn is a hard thing to find out about. Most men hide it and secrets in relationships are not good! Depending on the type of person you are porn can also destroy your confidence. Sit and talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel. I did with my bloke and feel so much better for it! good luck.
2006-06-11 22:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by KatieO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men do watch porn. I would not worry to much. Is he still paying you enough attention
2006-06-11 20:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this question may not be pleasant for you. He seems to be very desparate for sex and he doesn't find you very attractive/sexy. Somewhere his sex desires are not fulfilled.
He might have dreamed about heavenly beautyful girl in his life but he doesn't find you that much beautyful.
Thanks
2006-06-11 20:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by last_desire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch it with him!!! i used to be very prudish and thought that if my fella wanted to watch porn then he wasnt happy with our sex life, but thats most certainly not the case, my barriers are now down we watch porn together and have the most amazing sex life. give it a go you may enjoy it!!!!!!x
2006-06-11 20:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by princess tinkle UK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with watching porn,it adds to the fun . the desire to watch porn will wear off
2006-06-11 19:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watching porn is no substitute for sex hun, a lot of men watch it and their wives go apey, calm down he will soon got bored with it, mabey try watching it with him bet ya dont get to the end of the movie. good luk
2006-06-11 19:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by harrierzero1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋