Everyday there's like 5 new questions asking why the haters hate us so much. To me I just accept that there are always some people who will hate me and move on, so they don't have any power over me. That's not to say I won't report abuse or refute their fault logic, but I don't understand why some people allow themselves to be hurt by such comments. The way I see it if someone has a problem with gays its their problem not mine.
2006-06-11 19:29:52 · 7 answers · asked by sooziebeaker 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Billhill, in my details I said that i will refute their nonsense or report them. There is nothing wrong with being assertive and standing up for yourself. My issue is why people seem to be so hurt or frustrated by what other people say about them.
2006-06-11 20:00:35 · update #1
sstooc2001,
I agree with you for the most part, but that does not answer my question at all. My question isn't about the people spewing the hate its concerned with the people that let themselves be hurt by it.
2006-06-12 15:21:51 · update #2
When I was a teenager I used to get sooo hurt and bothered by those who hated me and my way of life. Now that i am a little older and a little wiser I think i understand why. I was insecure about a few issues in my life. I was weak in some areas, while strong in others. I was still learning how my feet walked as it were.
And people who made the comments and hated me, it felt to me, found my weakest point and my insecurities and made those wounds worse. And because of that I would take it personal. I would lash out. If a person is strong in who they are these comments and hatred will hit them but not hard. It wont eat at them. So my thought as to why is because they arent comfortable in their own shoes yet and their wounds get open more with every new comment and they take it personal when they shouldnt. Just my thought on it.
2006-06-11 20:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's a good point. I think though, that the agressive nature of a homophobe's outcry becomes too much to ignore after awhile. It's the difference between objection, and invasion. This section of Yanswers is a good example. With this being "les/bi/gay/trans", there's as many questions from phobic hateful people attacking the lifestyle as there are people with genuine questions.
People of "alternative" lifestyle and those who don't give a rip what people do in private. (myself) are content to live and let live. Hateful and homophobic people seem to seek les/gay people out and harras them. after awhile it comes to "enough is enough" levels.
To be fair, the more militant of the les/gay community are guilty of the same thing. As a straight guy, I always think "get a damned room" no matter what the gender of the couple necking in public.
2006-06-12 02:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm heterosexual and I completely agree that the haters have a real problem. Unfortunately, it's not just their problem. When they hate, they create negative energy. They are impacted by this negative energy. And, unfortunately, so are the rest of us. It cannot simply be ignored. If left unchecked, it can cause more than just negative energy; it can be physically and emotionally destructive. And that is why ALL non haters must ve vigilant in educating the masses and protecting all of us from the hate of the few.
2006-06-12 02:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by billhill1066 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these people are incapable of love. If they ever do, it's conditional with IFs, Ands and Buts about it......they need to feel that they are actually better than others. Their hatred reflects more about their own inadequatecy as a human. By venting their anger at other minority, they are temperory relieving their own toxic. It's a short cut that do nothing but damaging to them selves.
2006-06-12 13:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it stems from insecurity. it's great that you are so secure that you don't mind what other people think of you, but can you really blame people who aren't that strong? i mean we are very social beings, instinctively we seek others approval for our survival. when people blatantly hate you, especially for something you can't change, it's really scary.
2006-06-12 02:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ganesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I refuse to waste energy on feeling hurt. If someone wants to spend his / her energy hating me, oh well, that's his / her f*cking problem.
2006-06-12 06:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by My Big Bear Ron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, but some people care! also people want others to be open-minded and that would consist of being open to things that are different!
2006-06-12 02:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sunkist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋