I miss him so much and he won't be back till July and he has been gone since March my son cries for him everyday he is only two years old. When my husband gets back we have about 4 weeks till we move and i am scared we are going to Germany for Two years i mean we are going to a whole different country and then having to take our son will be even harder i am scared because i am not sure what to expect!! I need Advice??
2006-06-11 18:38:40 · 37 answers · asked by lovinDIJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When your husband decided to join the service did you and him discuss this? Did you have any say or input into this decision? Sounds like he's trying to do good by you and your son. But seriously, perhaps you should have thought about this before you got married and had a kid... doesn't sound like you're that satisfied with your current life. Are you looking for justification for a way out?
2006-06-20 13:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are what we predict. If you say you will be misserable, you probably will be. This is a grand adventure. People do this all the time and it adds to the variety and quality of life to have such an exciting adventure. Your son will sense your fear and concerns and might behave as you do. This would be teaching him to be afraid of life.There will be other military families there. When you married your husband you must of known that he might be moving all over the would. Change your attitude or your marriage will be very uneasy and that will hurt your security of your marriage. Step up to the challenge and make it the adventure of a life time. Expect the time of your life. Be open to the joy of being able to see the world. Right now your husband is sacrficing a great deal and he needs positive energy from you. If being with you is a nightmare how much fun will it be to be around you. If you want a scared little boy and a husband who would rather be anywhere but around your complaining.,,,,be prepared to pay the price.
2006-06-24 20:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was young, poor, and in the service. Had friends in the same shape, but with families. There is no possible way you can move to a whole new country. But, they did, and so will you. Our military has LOTS of experience helping young married people. And, your military families will all help each other. You WILL, manage, cuz you have to manage. And, you will experience things you'll never forget. The Alps, Octoberfest in Germany, weekends on the Riveara, and a night at the casino in Monte Carlo. You'll see and live what is now just dreams, and tv shows. Have fun, and even your son will get to be bilingual.
2006-06-24 10:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look baby relax and take a deep breath. Your husband is in the military and many times you will need to go where he is stationed. There is nothing wrong with Germany. Don't make a big deal about it. I lived in Germany twice when I was growing up because I was a GI brat just like your son is. You and your son will do fine. Germany is a real nice country to live in. Believe me, you will like it. How in the world can you criticize Germany when you have never been there?
Of course, you miss your hubby. That's normal. You will be reunited with him soon. Your son misses his daddy too. That is normal too. The kid will be ok when he meets up with pop real soon.
Look, don't get so upset and I predict things will work out great for your entire family. I loved Germany when I was growing up. We lived in Bavaria (southern Germany) when I was a little critter and then we went back to Germany when I was in Junior High School 6th 7th and 8th grades. We lived in Frankfurt, Germany. It is a large city with great people.
Do you like bratwurst? I love it and buy it here in the US.
So relax and don't worry about everything. Your family will be fine, even if you have to go to Germany. Wouldn't you rather go to Germany than Iraq? There's a lot of our young boys going to Iraq. I feel very bad for those mom and dads that have to deal with that.
Take care and have a wonderful life in Germany!!!!
2006-06-25 07:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax hun...it's lonsy yes without him and ur child is missing him. Just shows how much he is loved. But as for moving..it's an opportunity to find new friends and create great memories. My father was station in Germany and my brother was born there. My mom loved Germany. And she told me that she made great friends there. Being a military wife is hard. I remember what my mom went through for 20 yrs. And my parents are the few and far between that have been married from the start of my father's career. (30 yrs) So hang on and enjoy a new view. Look as it as an adventure....our family did.
2006-06-11 19:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a support group of other military wives. Moving to another country is exciting, make the best of it. From Germany, you can travel all over Europe with ease. It's a wonderful opportunity you are getting! And be thankful that you are going with him to Germany. My husband is in Iraq.
2006-06-14 07:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing you do not need to worry about is moving to Germany. Contrary to popular belive, Germans like Americans, there culture very similar to your own and most people know English and will be happy to use it. Look at it as an enriching experience for yourself and your family. Do not hide within the walls of the military camp, go out and meet the people! i guarantee you, you will return knowing you left many wonderful friends behind.
2006-06-25 06:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by ssnvgt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sweetie,I know what you're going through. My Husband has been in the Army for 15 yrs and he is on his way to Iraq for 18 mths.It's not going to be easy and I know you miss him because i miss my husband everyday and cry.But honey, at least you'll get to be with him soon.I know it's hard and you're worried about moving.But if I had the chance to be with my soldier, even in another country, I'd go. So just be glad he'll be back. I worry if mine is even coming back alive.Just be proud of him and stand by him.You really are kind of lucky. It may not seem like it now but you'll see.Take care. With Love
2006-06-24 16:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by marianne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so nervous. Remember it is an experience and pretend it is a vacation. Life is made of memories and your child is small and you won't have to worry about school and what opportunities to experience a whole different culture. You should be thrilled this isn't front line in IRAQ girl this is Germany. I envy you. Many wives didn't get to follow their spouse. I know it is hard but that is his life that he has choose and you agreed to it so now make the best of it and experience life and learn about the culture. Never quit learning.
2006-06-23 15:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear this brings back memories....military wife of 10 years...as for your son show him pictures of his dad, when he gets to call let him get on the phone as well, if you have videos of dad play them for him, and if the time comes that you go to Germany, it's a beautiful country and quite a different experience...if you expect negative in life that's what you will get, if you expect positive you will receive it...hope i made this clear. For yourself your son is feeling your anxieties of missing your husband and try to find things to do to occupy your time, before you know it you'll be back together.
2006-06-11 18:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by sexytwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋