trying to concieve...?

Question

My last period started may 23. ive had sex with my bf all last week. weve been trying to concieve for a lil while now with no luck. can any one tell me what the earliest symptoms of pregnancy are besides a missed period.. also i have heard if you stop trying so hard thats when your most likely to concieve... how do i stop trying if i know that is what we are trying to do.

Answer 1

The earliest *signs* (not symptoms--pregnancy isn't a disease!) of pregnancy (other than a missed period) are usually breast and/or nipple tenderness or nausea.

"Stop trying so hard" will *not* make it easier for you to conceive, unless you are really stressed out right *after* your period. If you have a lot of stress early in your cycle, it *could* delay ovulation, but even then, if you are checking for fertility (more later), it won't matter.

The *only* time you can conceive is at ovulation. However, since sperm can live in the female body up to 3-5 days (if conditions are right), you can get pregnant days later than the sex that resulted in conception. You can learn how to tell when ovulation is approaching by reading the book, _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. It will give you lots of *accurate* information, not the myths that are sometimes perpetuated.

Answer 2

Ok your periods are irregular so it's going to be impossible for you to guess when you're going to ovulate. I think the best thing to do would be to have sex every 2 days throughout your whole cycle, then you're bound to hit the fertile window at some point. If you leave it longer than 2 days, some sperm can die inside him because they're too old, and those sperm let of chemicals when they decay that can damage healthy sperm. If you have sex every day then the sperm don't get enough time to mature so they'll be less healthy ones. You could be ovulation tester sticks and make sure you have sex as soon as they go positive, but it's better to have sex a bit before that too so doing it throughout your cycle should help. Good luck x

Answer 3

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 5 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 4

Regarding your last sentence..I think there's a lot of truth to that. I kept telling my wife this, but you're right, how do you stop trying? I don't know. For us, we tried for well over a year. My wife finally got tired and discouraged and basically told herself that she didn't care anymore. I think she really did still care, but she was so discouraged that she didn't care as much I guess. This was last month. We always had sex missionary, as she read this was the best way for conceiving. Last month, after her "I don't care anymore" spill, we had sex in a way other than missionary because that's what we prefer, but we had rarely been doing it this way in the past because we were TTC. Guess what? She's pregnant now. lol

Answer 5

A big sign is missing your period. Other possible causes of missing your period are travel, fatigue, stress, illness, extreme weight gain or loss, going off the pill and breastfeeding.

Morning sickness is also another biggie. It usually occurs 2-8 weeks after conception. I started feeling slight waves of nausea around the time my period was due, obvioously it didn't arrive because I'm 13 weeks pregnant! Other possible causes of nausea are food poisioning, emotional stress and a variety of illnesses.

Frequent urination is another sign some women have. It usually rears its ugly head as early as 2-3 weeks after conception. Other possible causes are urinary tract infection, stress or diabetes.

Tingling, tender and swollen breasts is a very common pregnancy symptom. It can occur as early as a few days after conception, I know that was the case for my two pregnancies! Other possible causes are birth control pills and impending menstruation.

Another sign is darkening of the aerola (area around the nipple) and elevation of the tiny glands around the nipple. This usually happens later in the first trimester, although I noticed it around the same time I got a positive pregnancy test, when my period was due. Other possible causes of this are hormonal imbalances or the effect of a prior pregnancy.

A big sign for me was blue and pink lines under skin and later on abdomen. For me, I found that my breasts were the first to look like a road map with blue veins, about 5 days after conception. After that my thighs, hands and feet started to show veins as well. Later on, purple veins appeared under my armpits, on my eyelids and on my cheeks - I have very light skin. This usually occurs later on in the first trimester. Other possible causes are hormone imbalance or the effect of a prior pregnancy.

Food cravings can drive pregnant women insane! They usually appear in the first trimester. Other possible causes include poor diet, stress and impending menstruation.

A big sign for me, was tiredness. I used to almost be an insomniac, and about a week and a half after conception, I struggled to keep my eyes open past 8.00pm.

I also started to have 'grumpy pregnant lady' mood swings!

I'm going to include the link to a trying to conceive forum that I think you might find useful. Hope you sign up!

Answer 6

You cant just stop trying, I know....they mean when you give up, thats when itll happen..Earliest signs/symptoms: misssed period, light brownish-pinkish spotting for a day or two, sore brests/nipples, tiredness

Answer 7

everybody will have different signs of being pregnant. feeling ill alot, eating more, heartburn, tiredness. Go to your local library and read some books. Or ask your doctor.

Answer 8

Hi queeng,

If you had all sex during that week you are most likely to get pregnant if you and your partner are fertile.

if you cant get pregnant i suggest you consult your gp

Answer 9

use a pregnancy test kit