2006-06-11 17:57:25 · 26 answers · asked by lil_dance_chick 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There are many answers to this question. The biggest answer being that parents aren't parents anymore. They're "friends" with their kids. So many things influence today's teens. In my case, I started having sex when I was 17, and it was from a desire to have a male's approval. Didn't really work out. Children and teens these days need the influence of both parents or at least strong, positive role models of each gender.
2006-06-11 18:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by mountaingirl_4_jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most families have both parents working and have less time spent with their children, lack proper and age appropriate supervision and may have stressful lifestyles and/or homes. I would think that might contribute to the teen -sex epidemic unless:
1) Parent(s) have a close relationship to their children.
2) Parent(s)have taught them their sexual values.
3) Parent(s) know their childrens friends.
4) Parent(s) emphasize the importance of education and do this
by communicating with their teachers.
The way I see it, a 14 year old might be convinced that she isn't a child, she can scream and shout all she wants... Fact is: that she is - no matter what she thinks!
2006-06-12 04:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by baybemine2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are filling the gap.
for the girls its affection. they may not have had an affectionate father, or even had one around at all, and they crave male attention because of that lack of a loving father figure. they want to be loved and cuddled and payed attention to, and they feel that sex it the way to get that. they dont realise, for guys, its physical usually, and that sex isnt what they need at all. its a daddy.
for guys it can be pressure. everyone else is doing it, if u dont, your "weird", a "sissy" or your "gay". so they do it coz they feel obliged. there are many other reasons, but these are the main ones.
plus, there are hormones for both boys and girls. back in the days where ppl were loosing there virginity at an average age of mid twenties, the hormones were still there at just 12 or 13, but they werent being provoked. nowadays, children as young as 9 or 10, are being exposed to sexually suggestive content from the media, tv, the lyrics in music, internet... they see half naked women on almost all magazines, the ad's on tv are sexually inclined, it is drummed into there nature, it is made to seem natural and good, without age limits.
they are consistantly being thrown ideas from this world like "sex sells". for the girls its the ever increasing "less is more" in the clothing area... where if its not a mini, its not hot. and you have to have a boyfriend coz otherwise u cant be in the popular group, coz all the girls on tv who are cool, have boyfriends, and usually are having sex with them, at least once... there are brats dolls that 9yr olds are getting, that when you press there little talk buttons, say "lets go to the mall and find some boys" and.. " lets go to the bathroom and touch up our makeup"...
the boys are being taught off of tv series and media that men arent supposed to cry, and the best way to be the coolest guy in school is to have sex with one of those mini skirt wearing "popular" chix. if you dont want sex, you aint a man, and if you do have sex, your a hero in the eyes of every male that finds out. they are taught that it is funny to stare at women, and that women are a "try before you buy" deal. they arent taught respect, they are taught, "if she's underdressed, look all you want, here, have some dirty magazines so u can learn early to go for it. its healthy!"
kids basically, are pressured to grow up so much faster than they should, and the "growing up" isnt in maturity or integrity, its in bad habits, disrespect, and sex sex sex!
Praise God for His influence on kids. our youth group is in a really rough area, and before these kids knew the Lord (8 - 16yrs old) they were in the same difficult situation. now they have the strength to say NO! We have more important things to do, a career, meaningful friendships and relationships, commitment to our hobbies and dreams.... we have purpose, we have fun without sex and drugs, we believe in Jesus and we have found life!"
they are moving on up past the other kids, they are going somewhere in life, other than between the bedsheets, to find fulfillment. im not saying that a kid has to go to a youth group to be any better, but im just saying, not all kids are like this, there are kids around, rising up, and taking a stand, enjoying being kids, and understanding that sex isnt that important after all. they have dreams!
2006-06-12 11:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 14 and im havent had sex and dont plan to. I think that some teenagers and pre-teens are starting to because they are becoming more, and more spoiled. And if they are spoiled they dont pay attention in school to sex ed. classes or any class that teaches about the danger of sex.
2006-06-12 11:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question for you is why the h*** do you care? I think that as long as kids are using protection and doing it safely and responsibly then there's no problem with it. You can't play the religion card with this one for the simple fact more and more teens today don't believe in Christianity. Do you know why? Because it doesn't apply to this day and age. Teens today have sex to fill a gap in their life that their parents or friends don't fill. Frankly, I think that you all need to find something better to do with your lives than to sit around and talk about something that doesn't even f***ing affect you!
2006-06-12 15:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lestat de L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is as simple as this. Even if parents aren't that open about sex or arent that freindly... blah.blah......etc. there are just so many TV Shows,Movies and other programmes which talk a lot about sex and glorify sex. So teens after watching these shows just can't wait to have sex.
2006-06-12 02:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by RK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they are so unhappy about thereselves,they have no life.Instead of playing out in feilds and hanging wit there friends they are to bizzy watching playboy and trying to get hooked wit boys. Know I know what it means Im 13 and the last year i was about to have sex wit my boyfriend I was sad,bored and tried to act mature to impress my friends how ashame,but now i just realized that i have all the time in the world to do that
2006-06-12 06:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not their fault. It is because we, adults, encourage them to have sex. It is us who produce films with unnecessary explicit sex scenes, magazines for young people which literally tell them "IF YOU THINK YOU'RE READY (LOLOL) THEN GO AHEAD!" -- How can a kid possibly know he/she is "ready" ??? It is the role models we give them, by telling them that it is KOOL to copy the life style of idiots like brainless Britney Spears. It is as if we are telling our kids DON'T STUDY, BE STUPID AND HAVE SEX AND LATER ON IN LIFE ALL YOU CAN DO IS SWEEP THE STREETS AS A PROFESSION. Sad.... but it is not their fault. -- It is OURS !!
2006-06-12 04:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There parents didn't put the fear of god in them. (no not really) They see the older kids do it and the people on tv and they want to be just like them so they go out and have sex
2006-06-12 01:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by manthamanthers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of their parents are piss poor examples of true love becasue most of them are either divorced, born out of wedlock or being raised by grand parents or parent some are third generation out of wedlock babies. We don't value the scantity of marriage so to fill that gaping void of love and family they try to fill it with sex becasue they are looking for it and wanting it so badly.
2006-06-12 01:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋