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Even the people that should. Like they all decide you are this person they want you to be, and they don't actually know the real you?? It's very hurtful to be percieved one way, when you know that's not who you are inside. Does anybody else feel this way???

2006-06-11 17:52:21 · 20 answers · asked by FASHIONISTAMOM 2 in Entertainment & Music Polls & Surveys

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I get the feeling you are struggling with an important issue. We have all been where you are and most of us will continue to feel this way occasionally. But I have learned that another persons perception of you is based on how YOU have presented yourself to them. We are all chameleons. This is good so long as you don't compromise your basic beliefs.(YOURS not mine). As we grow in experience sometimes our beliefs change. But if you want others to know who you are you will have to tell them, they are not mind readers. Good luck. And don't be so hard on yourself. Decide who you want to be on the inside and let that person come forward to the outside. Just remember you sell what you advertise. And ask yourself if perhaps you are also doing the same to someone else. Like your mom is your mom right? Well she is also a woman, and a person with dreams and goals and even private thoughts. But to you she is Mom. My daughter has recently made some choices for herself by which I totally disagree and never saw it coming, probably because I didn't want to. And while I had to take her off the pedastle I had placed her on I still love my daughter unconditionally. I just have to put her on a different pedastle now. One with respect for who she has chosen to become. I have also been guilty of having impressions of people that were quite the opposite of who they are. I feared the Gothic clad teen with face piercings and tattoos(not my daughter) and clung to the clean cut cowboy who turned out to be a lier and a thief. Oh well.
Funny thing is our self image is comprised of the feed back from those whom we present ourselves to. My dad used to say "if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it must be a duck!".

2006-06-11 19:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by dw 2 · 8 4

yes...i feel like people rarely know me because i often have a defensive edge about me that's perceived as offensive. sometimes it's hard to lighten up and be yourself. no matter what my setting i'm a fish out of water. i was a bad boy in school, a scholar in a foxhole, a devil in church, a saint on a motorcycle.
i think that's one of the things that seperates the rest of the world from true friends. friends know who you are inside and like the real you.

2006-06-12 01:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by RunningOnMT 5 · 0 0

It used to bother me what others thought, but they only thought what they did because of NOT knowing the truth about me. I shouldn't have to spell out what they can see about me, but nooooooooooooo people only see what they wanna see so I let them plod on as blindly today as they did yesterday where I have an advantage over them, because I DO KNOW THEM-ignorant for not taking the time, and blind which they have already shown me.
And yes, it used to hurt when close to the heart perceive you as something you're not-but don't worry about it-life can be cruel people can be cruel too, the important thing to remember is not to become one of them

2006-06-12 01:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by WW 5 · 0 0

Yes i do know how that feels and it is very frustrating but something that I learned recently is that you are who you portray yourself to be so you have to be really careful and thoughtful in everything that you do. Also, another thing that I learned recently is that you teach people everyday how to treat you in the way that you react and respond and act to everything in your surrounding. I don't know if this was helpful in any way at all but I sure hope it was!

2006-06-12 00:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm afraid the only person that's really going to know you, is you. You're family and mate, may think they know you, and to a certain degree that's true. But, they only know what you show them and want them to know. We all have our deep inner feelings, thoughts, and secrets that we don't really share with anyone. So, how is anyone else suppose to know, your innermost and darkest feelings, if you don't share them. It's not an easy thing to do, that I know, but if you really want someone to really know, and really know what's going on in your life, you have to be the one to open up to that person, whether it be a family member, or your mate. It's all about communication, and sometimes it's not easy to do. Especially, with your deepest feelings and thoughts.

2006-06-12 10:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 0 0

Yes, totally. It is quite normal for us to see someone as we THINK they are, or even as we want them to be, instead of looking deeper to see who they really are.

It is hurtful to the person who is not being seen for who they really are because it makes them feel shallow and like no one really quite gets them or understand them. I feel this way, and as I said on my profile, "I am a double rainbow that they paint in black and white." That is how I feel sometimes. Like there is way more to me than anyone really cares to see.

2006-06-12 02:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 0 0

Sure...I have felt this way quite often...but you know what I am getting to old to give a **** what people think or if they really know me. I have decided to do what makes me happy because I only get one life and I will not continue to focus on things that will not make me a better me.

2006-06-12 01:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kenya_7 2 · 0 0

Yes I know exactly where you are coming from. I get it on This site all the time.

2006-06-12 09:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by charleedude 4 · 0 0

yeah, i do. sometimes i'm like "i'm so happy and they all really know who i am" then something will happen and I'll see that they don't really know me at all. then i'm really sad. sometimes, i feel like i'm a stranger to them and i could disapear and they wouldn't notice. sorry-just a bit depressed today. studying for finals.

2006-06-12 16:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by nothingis_sound 3 · 0 0

Every single day..

But, since i got married and had a baby, I don't even knoe me anymore, and that bothers me more than anything..

2006-06-12 01:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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