He don't spend that much time with me, he yells at me everytime I get on his e-mail and try to figure a way that he can not get back on the porn sights, lesbian sights, and the dating sights. Today I found a picture he printed off xxx-something-lesbian.com so I just threw it in the trash. And allday today I got on his e-mail and went to all his e-mails that had something to do with dating, porn, and lesbians and I wrote all the "sights" down and I blocked them all.
2006-06-11 17:50:42 · 21 answers · asked by boray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
say it to him first and don't snoop trust him
2006-06-11 17:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by snowboarder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want him to say he loves you? By his behavior to you and by your behavior going through his mail, websites etc. it shows you do not trust him at all. A relationship has to be built on love and trust. If he is fascinated by porn. and what could be called by some as deviant behavior and dating sites. He definitely is not fixated on you and is already looking for a replacement. You on the other hand, I am not sure what you might be doing other than going through his mail ..it takes two to tango as they say, so you don't mention what you do, could it be things like..don't take care of yourself? Gained weight? Bitchy?, Don't like to do things with him? Little or No sex? something obviously changed since the time you were married, after all remember you two were in love and it took both of you to say "I Do"...My suggestion is, you both go see a marriage counselor or your pastor or both. Then if things don't work out get a divorce. But for heavens sake, the first thing to do is have some respect for each others privacy.
2006-06-11 18:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's rough. Didn't you pick up on any cues before you married that guy? First of all you need to talk to him about how you feel, and if he still does stuff behind your back, then you know you can't trust him. How do you know if he would actually cheat on you or not if you cant trust him? You have to have honesty in a relationship for it to work. Looks like he may have some honesty issues. If he wants to change, you guys should at least see a counselor, if not, maybe it's time for separation. It will only get worse never better.
2006-06-11 17:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sidereality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but your husband does not love you. A husband that truly loves his wife will tell you every day how much he loves her. And second if he has any interest in porn lesbians or other sex web sites that's the biggest red light I have ever heard of. I know it's hard to think that he could not love you but if he doesn't say it now he never will no matter how hard you try to make him. Let him go and find a good man that will love you.
2006-06-11 18:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing a good job by blocking those sites.
You should cool off for a while and try praying for him and put together a plan of action for him.
He needs to hear from another married man thats it's not ok or normal to get hooked on porn sites or lesbian sites.
Check out sites like www.familylife.com and click on marriage conferences. Find one near your area. I know it helped me with porn.
2006-06-11 17:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW SWEETIE YOUR HUBBY HAS SOME MAJOR ISSUES. HE'S A PIG. HE HAS YOU AND WHAT DOES HE DO HE TAKES YOU FOR GRANTED.
NOW I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE, BUT IF YOU NEED A MAKE OVER THEN HONEY DO IT NOW. NOW IS THE TIME. SHOCK HIM. WOW HIM, LEAVE HIM WITH HIS TONGUE ON THE GROUND. WEAR SOMETHING SEXY AND DARING.
BE DARING, TRY SOMETHING NEW IN THE BEDROOM. TRY TO BE SPONTANEOUS. HAVE SEX ANYWHERE, ANYTIME. REMEMBER IT'S YOUR HUSBAND! IT'S NOT DIRTY IF IT'S YOUR HUSBAND. TRY FANTASY ROLE PLAYING. BE HIS FANTASY. TALK TO HIM AND TRY AND FIGURE OUT WHAT HE WANTS FROM YOU AND THEN MAYBE YOU CAN GET HIM TO FAWN OVER YOU AND TELL YOU HE LOVES YOU.
NOW AFTER ALL THAT, IF HE DOESN'T CHANGE, TRY MARRIAGE COUNSELING AND IF THAT DOESN'T WORK, GIRL YOU NEED TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL APPRECIATE YOU. YOU DON'T NEED TO SPEND YOUR LIFE RUNNING AROUND BEHIND HIM, CLEANING UP HIS SH*T.
YOU CAN BLOCK TILL YOU TURN BLUE IN THE FACE. IT'S NOT CAN CHANGE THE FACT THAT HE'S GONNA FIND MORE SITES TO CHECK OUT. GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE THINGS WORK OUT FOR YOU.
SOMETHINGS CAN'T BE FIXED. SOMETIMES PEOPLE REFUSE TO CHANGE. THAT'S WHEN THE OTHER PERSON NEEDS TO CUT THEIR LOSES AND WALK OUT. PEOPLE DON'T LIKE TO GIVE UP SO THEY KEEP ON CHUGGING ALONG AND CHUGGING ALONG UNTIL THERE'S NOTHING LEFT OF THE PERSON THEY USED TO BE. DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOU.
2006-06-11 18:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is bored with his sex life,maybe he wants out ofthe marriage? maybe you should nt put up with this anymore, why block the porn sites, there are som many more he will get on, you will be blocking porn sites and dating sites for years, why is he on dating sites??? theres a sign there. leave him while you can. if you have kids you dont want them around that. if you dont have kids why would you want to continue this relationship and have any kids in the near future maybe you should rethink this and get away fast. good luck.
2006-06-11 17:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did this just start? did you just buy a computer?my husband did the same thing to me.after he looks at those sights withhold sex!!!and start making comments about the guys on the sights about how nice there bodys are.look up your own sights print out pictures of hot men leave them around the house so he sees them.when your out together look at a hot guy turn around to get a second look at him.play his game.. he thinks as long as she loves me i can keep doing this so STOP telling him you love him,take it out of your routine, if you say goodnight honey i love you. start saying goodnight sweet dreams.thats it!!!!he will eventually miss hearing those three little words.TRUST ME!!!!!
2006-06-11 18:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by corvairchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow if all that is happening, there's no need to be with him. Seems like he's using them for sexual favors more than you. Talk to him about it. Get his opinion on things and if he still feels the way about you when he first married you. That's messed up.
2006-06-11 17:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay if he likes porn then try to watch it with him ya never know you might like it an it will intrigue him trust me...But if he cant tell you he love you then why are you even married still???
2006-06-11 19:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Luvley27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the movie war of the roses? You have bigger problems I'd say you obviously need marital counseling. He has an addiction.
2006-06-11 17:53:35 · answer #11 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋