If you ask your better half a Question, and they respond by getting upset. What are they saying?

Question

are they cheating on you, or are they just plain hidding something. This person also earses the history on this computer...He never wants to talk about it, it always becomes a big problem when you ask a question about the site or anything else to do with this computer...How can I know forsure what he is doing all the time on here.. computer is before hot wife.. Is he stupid,for not loving her and loving the computer instead.. What can I do.. everytime you ask him a question he gets upset about it like the other time in our life when bad things happened in our relationship..I think he is trying to hide something but I can't be sure, but most of the signs are there.. I am very lonly in my heart and in my bed, this has gotten really bad in the last 6 months. could someone help me..LostandLonely

Answer 1

They are saying you don`t matter enough to me to be kind and understanding!There is a possibility your husband is mad about something you don`t even know happened and needs to discuss it with you in a reasonable kind fashion.Also at certain ages some men louse sexual drive,he may be embarrassed and is hiding it with avoidance and anger.I would lean towards keeping a close eye on his activities and try to find out what he is so interested in other than his hot wife.There are some real weird people out there and it is amassing how well they can hide there deviant behavior.An acquaintance of mine, husband,liked little girls and left her alone one to many times and she found out.Here is a good rule for married people,if you can`t show your spouse what you are doing on your computer you most likely should`nt be doing it.Get some help ask a counselor in the mental health dept.of a clinic or hospital. Do it,DO IT NOW!

Answer 2

Hmmmm....could be lots of things.

My own experience...my husband was very troubled by my computer time. I have many friends from all over the world that I talk with from time to time. He felt threatened by the time I spent on the computer...soooo, I tried to include him as much as possible...that didn't work.....soooo, I quit talking with friends altogether...that didn't work, he still b*tched about it, now saying that I must be meeting them in person or something....which I NEVER did or will ever do.

Moral of the story: Find out what the motivation is for the time spent on the computer. Mine was relaxing and 'hanging out' with friends. Depends on what he's doing.

When 'asking' these questions, if you use an accusing tone of voice or way of speech, I can tell you that he will be come defensive, at least, I would...and did. I wasn't doing anything wrong, but it made me angry that the husband thought I was.

I never put the computer before my husband, so my situation is somewhat different than yours, I wish you the best of luck, hope it all works out for you!

Answer 3

Definately sounds as if your are facing a trail right now. Try not to investigate in the moment. Ask a question when he is unlikely to feel guilty about what he just eraced. You should tell him that you are feeling hurt and lonely and desire to spend time with him. That he is important to you and you want to understand him and want him to understand you. If he continues to get upset then chances are he has something to hide and you don't need that from your better half. All couples go through ups and downs , if he doesn't seem to care that you are hurting then that should be a wake up call to you.

Answer 4

All the signs are there.I am in a broken relationship now because of this computer.My wife feels the same way you do.She has told me more than once how she feels and i am trying to do better.You have a right to feel the way you do,let him know that your aware of what he is doing on the computer.Ask him to please spend more time with you rather than the computer.Let him get mad,your an your needs are more important than that machine.If you still confused about what he's doing,He's going to porn web sites or he is talking to someone on line.

Answer 5

You are not alone. Just find something that you like to do. Find some friends or find a hobby. Don't be a nag if he does not want to talk, don't force it. I am not saying be a doormat either. Try any of these things:

1. Shopping (don't have to spend a lot of money, window shopping is okay).

2. Go to one of your girl-friend's house talk and watch Tv.

3. Go to a movie with a friend

4. Go to the gym and let out some steam.
4. Go to church you will find plenty of friends there.

Answer 6

Sounds like you guys need some counseling. He does sound like he's hiding something. If a couple can't communicate the relationship really doesn't progress. It just exists and that is no fun for either of you. Let him know something's got to happen. If he doesn't take you serious, you will have to show him you are.

Answer 7

They are saying, "I fear the possibility of getting caught.!"

Instead of fighting an investigation, try adding some marriage sites to the computer. Like Dr. James Dobson, www.familylife.com, KLTY.com, you know look for family sites to keep in front of his face. Let that soak in for a while before you begin your interogations again.

Answer 8

I would say he is hiding something. I would guess a porn site. Those can be addicting too. He probobly feel guilty and thats why he gets defensive and mad at you. Maybe you can do something really creative in the bedroom, and maybe quit asking him about it for awhile, just ignore and see what happens. I can only imagine how hard it would be to be silent about it.

Answer 9

Sounds like he is hiding something. Maybe his looking at porn or e-mailing someone. You may never be able to know for sure since his erasing everything.So you need to go on your gut feelings about this and do what you think is right for you

Answer 10

Lack of trust in the marriage --- sounds like an issue the two of you need to work on - try some marriage counseling --- or can the two of you agree to deal with the real issues in your marriage and work them out ?