Why Do Most Of My Cousins Come To Me For Advise, Most Of The Time?

Question

The ones that do are 12-23, and male, I am 17 same gender. I am a loner, have no friends, perfer to be left alone, but my cousins can't seem to understand that!

Surely they relise I haven't been though EVERYTHING in life?! So why bother me?! I've no siblings, and neither does one of them, which is the only one I don't mind helping. But I hardly get to help him because the others, who have other siblings they could ask, bother ME!

How can I get them to leave me ALONE?!

Without being jealous of me helping out one of them, and not the others.

Answer 1

I think they come to you because they care for you and respect you ....you must be very grown up 17yr old hold your head up and be proud ...alone is OK but lonely not .....sure they wouldn't be jealous ....keep in touch with them when you go to uni or whatever you going to do ....family should stick together their always there when you need them no questions asked so don't alienate yourself

Answer 2

sometime people think that loner's have less problems, remember the majority of people seek parntes/friends for that comfort or second opinion that you value, you couzins are abviously getting something good from speaking to you, help them in that way, I always wish I had a close relative to rely on emotionally but I dont. you havent been through lots as a loner so you are on the outside looiking in and can probably point out more than what some one on the inside can see. i think maybe try to look at it at a different angle, you are speacial and doing a whole load of good thats why they keep coming back. however about them being jealous they need to greow up and act like adults. good luck

Answer 3

You should be flattered , Your family must really trust and want your advice or they wouldn't seek you out . But if you really don't want them to come around anymore the most obvious approach is to simply tell them that you can't help them anymore and you would appreciate it if they would let you have your privacy . As far as helping just one and not the others who cares what they think and how they handle your favoritism . You have the option to do what you like , you are a free agent and can't control the feelings of others .

Answer 4

It sounds to me like your cousins look up to you! You should be flattered and feel proud! They apparently think that you are also very knowledgeable. Since you want to be left alone, the next time they come to you, just explain to them that you want to be left alone, as nicely as you can. If they respect you (which it sounds like they do), they will understand and leave you alone.

Answer 5

itz steropical of a person who wants to be left alone to be one who everyone comes to 4 advice because they know that if they tell u something of some importence that u wont tell anyone because u never talk to anyone... but this is just a theroy, the only way u can stop it from happin is to tell them that u dont want to b botherd by their problem and that u just wanna b left alone

Answer 6

So many coming to you,still you are alone!You give advice to many?what advice they seek?You want friends or not?Now you want advice.A lot of contradictions.Something wrong.Please see a psychologist.

Answer 7

You must be a good listener. Be flattered that they trust you.

Answer 8

I hope they are not asking for help with spelling!

Answer 9

maybe God is prompting you to be more social and be compassionate and help them,, do you plan to have children some day

Answer 10

i just believe its a blessing, they just believe in you! they could have realised most of those you have advised have been sucessful.