should i or should i not?

Question

me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now and it's been the best relationship i've ever had but now my parents are ganna move my family 8 hours away! I love my boyfriend more than anyone or anything and i really hate that i have to leave. So me and him keep talking about how if we were to have sex and i get pregnant my parents would let me stay cause both our parents would make us raise the baby together, so now i want to know should we really do it or not?? (i'm 15, and yes i know alot of you are ganna say we're way too young)

Answer 1

Get educated about what it takes to raise a baby. You probably wouldn't be raising it, your parents would. If you and your bf really love each other, then your relationship will work no matter how far apart you live. A baby only causes more stress on a relationship and I bet that, if you do get pregnant, that you won't be together in 5 years. Get to know each other better. Your relationship will become so strong while you get to know each other by e-mail because you won't have any physical road blocks. Then, when you do see each other, you can have fun together (not having sex) and when the two of you are older and more responsible, and you do have sex for the first time, it will be so special because you know all about each other and what the other one likes. Dating someone for four months is nothing compared to a lifetime of sharing a kid with someone you thought you loved, but it turned out, it was just lust.

In other words: DON'T DO IT!!!

Answer 2

You obviously have no idea what having a baby accually takes, it requires 24 hour attention for the next 10-20 years and lots and lots of money, and your relationship may not last, if that happens you cant give the baby back. you will probly find that you are stuck with it, while he has a day every two weeks. Ive seen babies also put a LOT of strain on partners, they dont stop when you wanna have a break or spend some quiet time with each other. Oh and going out for a night on the town is rare and far between unless you can afford the baby sitters all the time.

of course theres also the possibility that your folks wont let you stay there if you fall preggers.
you really shouldnt even think about a baby just so you can tell your folks that you should stay with the guy you have now.

Answer 3

Never... I repeat, NEVER use a child to keep a relationship together. You are 15 years old, and I know how you feel about him now, but what if something were to happen and you two broke up? You would be pregnant, ON YOUR OWN. That's a very scary thought. Trust me, if it is meant to be for you two to be together, then love will find a way. Just don't use a child to get there. Not only would it cause you to grow up way too fast, but you would miss out on a lot a long the way. Give yourself time to grow up and then decide to have a child with someone. We only live once. Do it riight the first time around. Besides, you wouldn't want to blame the child for taking away the best years of your life, now would you?

Answer 4

Yes you are too tooo young I tell u this because I had a child when I was 15 and it is extremely hard and painful because u feel that u let your family down and that u can`t be a good parent for your child because at this age how much do u really know about how to raise a child. Besides four months in arelationship to have a bay just cause your moving 8 hours away what he can`t take a bus or train or manage to go see u every now and then if he cannot do this then we see how much he really cares about u. think about it do u or him have a stable job to offer this baby everything he id going to need through out his entire life (well atleast till he is 18). all that he wants is a couple of minutes of pleasure and who can promose u that he is going to be a man and keep hisd word about helping u out with this child. DONT DO IT! it is too hard to go through with all of that at this age take my word for it I lived it on my own cause he left when my baby was 3 months, my child is now 6 and I never saw him or heard from him

Answer 5

Don't get pregnant. You are too young and it will ruin your life. Who is going to pay your rent, bills, medical, and for everything a baby needs? You don't realize the pain involved in giving birth, your body will have stretch marks and never be the same. What if your boyfriend gets tired of a baby screaming all night, and he decides to leave you? How do you plan on going to school or working and looking after a baby? Babies are cute...but what if its sick and crying. You might not have any help. Do you realize that you have 18 more years of looking after it? I can't imagine giving up my youth to be stuck at home, broke with a crying baby. When you are 30 you will have a 15 year old kid!!! Even if you go ahead and do this I bet its a 99.9 percent chance that you and your boyfriend won't be together in another year or two.

Answer 6

Im 15 years old myself, and I don't think its a good idea either. First, it's just a respect issue, respect your body and wait until you know that its really love and that you would want to spend the rest of your life with the guy and the guy wants to spend his life with you and actually raise and also to be able to support the child together. And other people look at you with lesser respect too, as a teenage mother.. and second, you would have to think about the baby, if u were to get pregnant. Do you think that you might someday marry this guy? if not, im sure the child will want a mom and dad, and its hard for kids when they dont have a dad, and then you have to think about child support and everything. Its very complicated. Just trust me, and don't do it. But the choice eventually comes down to you, and I hope you make the best one for yourself.. Good luck with whatever you do,

~*~ Brianna ~*~

Answer 7

im 15 and im pregnant....but we didnt do it on purpose...but see i dont want to have an abortion or adoption caz i just dont believe in that and i know that my life right now if pretty much ruined...but im not worried abou my life...i jus worried about the babys and im goin to make sure my boyfriend and i give it the best life and be the best parents...but you shouldnt want to have a child jus to stay wit him...if you two really and truly love eachother then you should try long distance relationship...as long as you both are truthful and see ecahother as much as posiable then everything should work out fine...trust me a child is a HUGE responsabilty...right now im taking care of my neice(2 1/2) caz my sister (19) neglected her...its very hard and its a 24/7/365 job...even though you think it night b good for you and your boyfriend thats not always best for the baby...but i think you should hold off the plan untill you have a stable income and are positive you can care for a kid

Answer 8

Gal it's ok to feel that way but to have a baby at that age is not the way to go just so you can be closer to him. I am nineteen years old and i have a little two year old i had him six days before my seventeenth birthday and it's not fun watching all the girls your age being able to go out and go to parties while you are stuck at home with a baby live your teenage years. i don't regret my son at all i just regret the choices i made and you are young and so was i but just look at all the things you couldn't do if you had a baby a 15 and how do you know your guy won't leave you girl i thought mine would never leave but our baby was planned yall are young and are wanting to experience new things but i did it and he left me a couple of months later he realized what he did and now we are married and he is off on his military job training. GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT!!!!!!

Answer 9

You do not have a baby to get your parents to let you and your boyfriend be with each other. There are other ways to go about doing that. Explain to your parents how you feel about moving away. You and your boyfriend can phone each other on the phones all the time and can take turns in going to visit each other on weekends but having a baby will not solve this AT ALL!

Answer 10

it depends on how much you really love him the way to noe if you are in love with him and if he feels the same way about you is do you think about him when he is not with you do you go somewhere and cant wait to get home to call him do you think about him so much sometimes you cant sleep do you feel like if he leabes a part of you will be gone forever do you carry him in your thoughts ask him the same and i would only do it if you could take on the responsibility a baby is no game a baby cost a lot of money and if you havent taken care of one you will find that out and i would only do it if you knew for a fact that he would stay with you but if you feel like you can handle waken up in the middle of the night almost every 3 hours and you feel like you can handle the part of buying baby diapers and bottles and having a certain kind of diet when you are pregnant then babe i think you might be able to handle it but i would be absolutely sure that he is gonna be the kind of guy that would stick around and be a father figure but think before you goand do something that might end up as a mistake