Why does my family always make comments about my weight?!! *tear*?

Question

Im either too fat or too skinny for them
im 5'4 & 120 lbs and just like most girls im worried about my appearance. & it makes me feel like $hit when my parents, grand parents & even aunts and uncles say stuff about my weight.

A few years ago I was slightly over weight & they would always say things to me like "chubby" or "heavy" even if they said they were just joking it hurt my feelings. Now that I've lost almost 15 lbs (not 4 them but 4 myself), they keep saying i am too skinny & need to eat more. I really hate it when my aunts laugh at me & say stuff like "ur not fat...just a lil on the heavy side.". is 120 lbs really heavy?? my BF doesnt think so. hes the only one that ever said he likes me just the way i am.

i wish my family would shut up.My mom would even embarass me in public in front of my friends & shout @ me & say i better eat bcuz i am too skinny. its really frustrating 4 me. its not like i dont eat! i love 2 eat. she just doesnt see me doing it bcuz shes alwys @ work

pls...no mean answers....i feel bad enough...

Answer 1

OK.....be4 you lost the wait they said that u were to fat,like finding something bad about you to tease.they did not think that u would lose the wait.....so they wanted to keep teasing you because you would not do anything.got that?and after you lost the 15 pounds(good job on that!!!!!)they think that you look great but still want to bring you down so NOW they say that u r 2 skinny!Long story short,they have 2 find SOMETHING about u
that they can tease!!!!!!I'm not sure if that made alot of sence but that is what i think.
good luck,and if you think and feel comfortable in your skin then just pay no attention to them!!!!!!
again GOOD LUCK!!!God bless.

Answer 2

OK..I'm going to go a different direction with this-and I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic. Sometimes a person will make their weight the center of their world. They may talk about it, worry about it, complain about their lack of clothes that fit, moan in front of the mirror, ask what's for dinner and complain when it calorie-laden, etc. They may think they are not affecting others around them, but they do--it becomes the topic that defines them. "Suzie and her weight issues" Unfortunately, it also becomes the first thing people relate to you when they start chatting. Now, this may not be your situation-and if so I am sorry that your family is being insensitive. If this does hit home, then consider being kinder to yourself and treat yourself witht the same respect you expect from others.

Answer 3

Its a tough problem, youre a perfect weight and you shouldnt be concerned about your weight. Its hard when people say things about someones weight, its 10x harder if that person is family. Its a recipe for developing an eating disorder but for some reason your family is dense about the harm they are causing.

If it were me, I would sit down with my mother and really talk to her about it. Make her understand that you are comfortable with your weight and tell her that it really hurts you when she talks about your weight. That it has made you cry and that she is hurting you. Usually when you tell parents things like that they realize what they are doing and hopefully will stop.

If she still refuses to stop then you might want to get the involvement of a health care professional. Or you could refuse to eat any meals with your family until they promise to stop referring to your weight (eat in your room, eat out with your boyfriend or his family etc.)

Edit*

Ignore the first response from Jan. Shes probably a huge 300lb fatass with 7 kids that hates her life and so wants everyone else to be miserable to.

Answer 4

They are only trying to look out for you. If what they are saying is hurting you this much then you need to sit down and talk to them. Explain to them how you are feeling, and how what they say hurts you. You might find that some of what they are saying to you is purely innocent and they are playing.

It's always been my opinion that as long as YOU are healthy and YOU are happy there is no "right weight" or "wrong weight" for a person. And if you are both, then I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 5

generally speaking most people are programmed to think and say things that were drived by the consummer world and tv in general.

it is not that your family is mean by nature; its a pre-conditionment.
ask yourself why do people keep on buying car when they know that the air and water wont be good for consumption in 15 years from now?
Bush, the TV ads tell them its GOOD to buy cars while our LIVING environment is beeing destroyed, dr phil him intead of talking real issues like Earth Poisoning is telling your familiy that it is calories that are dangerous.. Tv and movies portray people whom are diysfunctional and irresponsible..essentially the TV is keeping your familly entertained without a will to reason deeply. Governments dont want your familiy to talk about real socio-economic problems. that is the problem..

Answer 6

You're family and friends need to grow up and stop being so shallow! That's terrible. They are obviously obsessed with appearances. If you feel good about yourself then that is all that matters. Just ignore them.
Sorry but moms just embarrass their daughters by instinct or something!

Answer 7

i know exactly how you feel there is this lady that goes to my church she probably weighs about 350 and every sunday at lunch my pawpaw says if you dont quit eating so much you are going to look liek her and my whole family does it and they all know i am concious about my weight and they all make fun of me and crack little jokes especially my pawpaw and my older sister and my older sister weighs like 125 pounds i would give anything to weigh 125 pounds and she knows she hurts my feelings when she says it bcuz she keeps on and on and it makes me cry and she laughs at me but i have quit drinking soft drinks and i have lost like 5-7 pounds i am happy so just dont let your family get you down about your weight they might make you so upset that things really serious could happen and you dont want that now do you?

Answer 8

First of all you're just perfect when it comes to your size and weight. You should really ask your family to quit making rude comments cause it really hurts your feelings. Trust me your not fat and your not to skinny like Paris Hilton or Nicole Richie.

Answer 9

Regaurdless of the fact that you are skinny or overweight, they are your family, they should love you unconditionally! Remind them of this fact! You are you! If you are comfortable in your own skin, tell them so, they should back off. If they don't, stand your ground. You are your own person, you are not here to to project an image of them! You were put on this earth to be yourself, not what others THINK you should be!

Answer 10

get some guts and tell them to shut the fu*! up. It shouldn't matter what they think. If it bothers you that much I'm sure each one of them has an imperfection that you could point out just as easily as they point yours out and then maybe once their feelings have been hurt they could see that they are hurting your feelings